Showing posts with label children's ministry safety and security. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children's ministry safety and security. Show all posts

Protecting Preschoolers From Abuse

Last Wednesday, Caleb Gaston was arrested on accusations that he sexually assaulted a 3-year-old girl at the YMCA where he worked.

Caleb has also been charged with raping a 4-year-old girl at the same YMCA in Wichita, Kansas.

Gaston was an employee at the Downtown and East YMCA's, where he worked in the Kid Zones - an area where parents can leave their children while they exercise or take classes.  The area is for children ages 6 weeks to 7-years-old.

Gaston also worked at the Plymouth Learning Center, which is a church preschool.  His employment there was “terminated on 10/9/17 due to a complaint of inappropriate touching,” according to a statement by Plymouth Congregational Church.

This heartbreaking news is a reminder of how critical it is to have safety and security measures in place to protect children from abuse.  The YMCA where this took place, says it has safety and security measures in place, but somewhere there was a breakdown in the system.

The fact that the defendant had a previously documented accusation of inappropriate touching, should have been a huge red flag.  A reference call to his previous place of employment should have caught this.  

You cannot be too safe when it comes to protecting the children in your care.  No one precaution by itself is enough.  It takes a plethora of steps to build a solid wall of protection.  The more steps you have in place, the safer children will be.  Here are the key steps you must have in place.
  • Background check
  • Orientation - go over safety and security measures and have each person sign a form that says they agree and will abide by these
  • Windows in all areas - you should be able to clearly see what is going on inside each area at all times
  • Rule of 2 - no one is ever alone with a child - never - no exceptions 
  • Cameras - have video cameras in every area and let everyone know everything they do is being taped
Please, please, please make sure kids are safe in your ministry.  We recently hosted a webinar that helps churches make their ministry a safe place for kids and families.  If you were unable to attend, it was recorded and is available on demand at this link. 
 
Let's diligently walk guard around the precious children God has placed in our care and say "Not on my watch!"

4 Keys to Keeping Your Ministry Safe for Kids and Families

Is your ministry safe for kids and families?

If someone tried to pick up a child who wasn't theirs during dismissal, would they succeed?

If a sexual predator tried to start serving in your ministry, would he be able to sneak in?

If a shooter suddenly opened fire, would you know what to do?

Do first-time guests feel safe leaving their children in your ministry?

If an unapproved person tried walking into your children's area, would he or she be stopped?

If a volunteer was accused of hurting a child during class by yanking their arm, would you have the ability to know what happened?

If a mother frantically approached one of your volunteers and said she couldn't find her child, would the volunteer know what to do next?

These are real-life situations that can happen.  And ministries must be prepared.  In each of these scenarios, just reacting on the spur of the moment won't cut it.  You've got to act ahead of time to stop it from happening in the first place.  And then if it does happen, despite all your precautionary measures, know what steps to take to resolve the issue.

Let's look at 4 keys you can put in place to help make your ministry a safe place for kids and families.

Key #1 - Have a thorough on-boarding process for new volunteers.  The process should include...
  • background check
  • orientation where safety and security guidelines are clearly explained and expectations are set
  • hands-on training with a veteran volunteer
Key #2 - Never allow anyone to be alone with a child.  No one key stands alone in keeping kids safe.  You need to have them all in place.  But if I had to pick the one that helps keep kids safe above all others, it would be this one.

No one should ever....ever...ever be alone with a child.  This means you don't open a classroom until 2 approved volunteers are there.  This means you never drive a child or teenage volunteer home alone.  This means no one walks a child to the bathroom alone.  This means no one meets with a child alone. 

Key #3 - Have a check-in and check-out process.  Every ministry should have a check-in process in place.  Don't listen to "you know me" or "I've been coming forever" or "we're a rural community, nothing would ever happen here" or "we can't afford it."

You can't afford NOT to have a check-in and check-out process.  I recommend KidCheck.

Key #4 -  Only allow approved people in your children's ministry areas.  The days of allowing anyone who wants to enter the children's ministry area is over.  Your entire children's ministry area, including the hallways, should be an area that is off-limits to anyone who isn't pre-approved to be there.

Set up checkpoints, where you check parent security tags, volunteer badges, etc. before the person is allowed to enter the children's ministry area.

Like never before, it is critical that churches are prepared to make their ministries a safe place for kids and families.

If you'd like more steps to put in place to make your ministry a safe place, you can get the Safety and Security online seminar at this link.  It includes 2 hours of teaching about...
  • Why Children's Ministry Safety & Security Must Be a Priority for Churches
  • Predator Proofing Your Ministry 
  • Safeguarding Your Ministry

Safety & Security Live Webinar Coming...3 Keys to Protecting Your Children's Ministry

Safety and security is one of the most important issues facing the church.

Attacks and abuse can strike at any time and place.

As Christian leaders, we are called to be "wise as serpents and harmless as doves."

Churches must be prepared to protect the kids and families in their care.  That's why we are hosting a live webinar about Safety and Security.  We can help your ministry have the knowledge and training you need to be prepared and stay safe.

You'll gain the keys you need to keep your ministry safe in these 3 sessions:

Key #1 - Why Safety & Security Must Be a Priority in Your Church
Keeping kids and families safe at your church starts with making it a priority.  I'll give you steps to elevate safety and security at your church.  You'll also be able to help your church understand why safety and security is not only vital to keeping people safe while they are in your care, but for reaching kids and families as well.

If you want to see your church grow, then parents must know that their children are safe in your care.  Learn how you can do this and as a result keep more guest families who visit.

Key #2 - Predator Proofing Your Ministry.
Angela Lawson will be leading this session.  She is a child safety expert and part of the KidCheck team.  KidCheck helps churches and other organizations keep children safe.  They provide check-in software and equipment.

We know the enemy will try to send predators into your ministry.  Angela will share the keys to keeping predators out of your ministry and keeping kids safe.

Key #3 - Safeguarding & Security Your Ministry. 
Tim Miller will be leading this session.  Tim is a former secret service agent who coordinated security for the president of the U.S.  He has also served as the senior dept. of homeland security rep to the FBI.  Tim is the founder of Lionheart Group, which provides security training for ministries.  He also leads the security at his home church, where over 26,000 people attend each weekend.

Tim will share how you can be prepared for terrorism, active shooters, crisis situations, dealing with unstable people, taking care of medical issues and other crucial issues.  He'll equip you to train your team.

The live webinar is happening on Wednesday, January 24th from 2 to 4 pm EST.  Dozens of church leaders from across the country are joining us and I'd like to personally invite you to be part of it as well.  In each session, we will also have live Q &A, so you can ask for personal input about safety in your ministry.

You can register today at this link.  Registration includes 2 ebooks - my book "The Formula for Building Great Volunteer Teams" ($7.00 value) and "Technology Spotlight."

Register today and join us for this event.  Let's partner together to keep kids and families safe and secure


Equipping Parents to Talk with Their Children About Abuse

The young Millennial parents in your ministry are facing parenting challenges that their parents did not face.  Social media, smartphones, 24/7 news channels and non-stop streaming have created an avalanche of information that comes at families.  Today's kids are exposed to news and information that their parents didn't have to face at that age.

Picture this...because it's reality.  A mother is sitting in the living room with her 2th grade daughter.  Breaking news comes on screen and before mom can react, the daughter has heard about Harvey Weinstein being accused of sexual abuse.  The daughter asks mom what sexual abuse is.

Picture this...because it's reality.  A father is driving his 6-year-old son to school.  Suddenly, the radio announces that Matt Lauer has been fired amidst sexual abuse accusations.  The son asks his dad what the man did to the ladies.

Picture this...because it's reality.  A grandmother is watching her 8-year-old granddaughter at home while mom is out-of-town.  The granddaughter picks up grandmother's copy of Time magazine and starts flipping through it. She sees an article headline that says Roy Moore has been accused of abusing teenage girls years ago.  The granddaughter asks what that means?

Picture this...because it's reality.  A stepfather and his 4th grade stepson are on an iPad looking at family pictures on Facebook.  On the news-feed, a story pops up about a man who has been convicted of abusing a child.  The stepson asks what the man did.

This is the world the families in your church live in and you can help prepare them for it.  The avalanche of information has accelerated the conversation timeline for parents.  Many parents and grandparents don't know how to respond to these questions and are looking for help.  They are being forced to have conversations that they feel their children are not ready to have. 

Here's where you can partner with parents by providing them tips and guidance for having these conversations with their children.  Let's look at some basic tips you can share with them.

Teach your children that our bodies have private parts that no one should touch.  It is very disrespectful when someone tries to do this.  Parents can go in to more detail about what parts that means at their discretion.

What parents can say when their children ask about someone who is an abuser.  Here's an example.  Let's say they ask specifically about Harvey Weinstein.  What should you say?

"Harvey bullied women whom he was working with.  He showed his private parts to some of them without their permission.  For others, he touched their private parts without permission.  He used his work position and power to make them do things they didn't want to do.  This was very wrong and is against the law."

Teach parents how they can help protect their children from abuse. 
  • Be careful about putting their children in situations where abuse could happen such as sleepovers, riding alone in a car with an adult or teenager, behind closed doors, etc.
  • They can ask their children these questions and help them determine the answers.  It's important for parents to prepare their children to know how to handle abusive situations.
    • What should you do if someone tries to touch your private parts?
      • run to a place of safety
      • shout out "back off" or "don't put your hands on me"
      • bite, kick or claw the person who is trying to touch you
    • Should you tell us if someone tries to touch your private parts or says things that sound wrong to you?
      • Yes.  It can be difficult to speak up if the person who is trying to hurt you is bigger, stronger or older than  you.  But you can't be quiet.  Even if you are nervous, you should always come to us or whoever is in charge and tell what is happening. 
    • What should you do if you see or hear of someone else being abused?  
      • Stand up for the person.
      • Speak up for the person.  Tell us immediately.  If you are in a situation where you are away from us, then tell an adult you trust.  
      • You have the ability to make a difference.
It is also vital that parents teach their children not to abuse or bully others.  Teach children to never use their power, strength or position to hurt or take advantage of others.  When they see reports of abuse or see abusive behavior acted out on TV or in film, point it out.  Let your children know that it is wrong and not what God wants.  God has called them to help other people, not abuse them.

Parents see the headlines and hear the reports and it's scary for them.  They are looking for help to prevent their children from being abused.  God can use you to help equip them and prepare them to protect their children.

Parents should also never have to worry about their children being abused at church.  We must make our ministries a safe place for kids to be at all times.   

I'd like to help you keep kids safe and secure while they are at your church.  That's why I've created a live webinar that can give you the tools, resources and knowledge you need to protect kids from abuse at church.  It's happening on January 24th.
  
I will be bringing a session about Why Safety & Security Must Be a Priority in Your Church.  You'll learn why it's so important not only for protecting kids, but for reaching families and growing your church as well.

My friend, Angela Lawton, will be sharing a session about Predator Proofing Your Ministry.  She'll share the keys to keeping predators out of your ministry and keeping kids safe.

Tim Miller is another friend who will be sharing.  Tim is a former secret service agent who was responsible for guarding the President of the U.S.  He was also the senior dept. of Homeland Security rep to the FBI.  He now provides safety training for churches.  He will share vital information about Safeguarding and Securing Your Ministry.  You can get more info. below and register at this link.  

One of our top priorities in today's culture must be equipping parents to talk with their children about abuse and ensuring that kids are at safe at church.  Let's help build a wall of protection around children that the enemy cannot breach.

6 Steps to Prevent Child Abuse from Happening at Your Church

Safety and security must be a top priority of every children's ministry.

It is always crushing to hear about a child who has been abused at a church.

How serious is it?  Look what Jesus says...

"And whoever is a cause of trouble to one of these little ones who have faith in me, it would be better for him if a great stone was put round his neck and he was dropped into the sea." Mark 9:42

Don't think abuse can't happen at your church.  Not one church where it has happened ever thought it would happen at their church.

The Bible reminds us in I Peter 5:8...

"Stay alert.  Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour." 

We have an enemy who wants to destroy the lives of the children in your church.  An enemy who wants to damage your church's testimony and witness in your community.  An enemy who wants to cause shame and hurt and pain and sorrow in the lives of the families in your church.  

The enemy will try to sneak people into your ministry to abuse the precious children whom God has placed in your care.

How do we stop him?  We do what the Bible tells us in the first part of 1 Peter 5:8, where he is warning us about the enemy. 

We "STAY ALERT" and we "WATCH OUT."

It is the job of every children's ministry leader to walk guard around the ministry and protect God's precious children.  

How can we practically do this?  Let's take a look at 6 steps you can take to prevent the enemy from getting through.  None of these steps are fail-proof by themselves.  It takes putting all of them in place to build a solid wall of protection.  

Step 1 - Thorough On-Boarding Process for Volunteers
Every single volunteer should be taken through an on-boarding process that includes...
  • An application that includes the hard questions that need to be answered like "Have you ever been convicted of a crime?" and "Have you ever been accused of abusing a child?" and "Have you had any past addictions to drugs, alcohol or pornography?" and "Is there anything now or in your past that would be a red flag for you serving with children?" (email me and I can send you a sample application)
  • Reference calls should be made.
  • A background check should be done.  
Anyone who has abused a child should NEVER be allowed to serve in children's ministry.  If something pops on the background check like a drug conviction, then you need to have policies in place that guide your decision about letting them service.  An example would be that a person has to be free from addiction for 3 years before they can serve in children's ministry.

Remember this - it is no one's right to serve in children's ministry.  It is a privilege.  The safety and security of the children takes precedence over everything else.

Step 2 - Secure Check-In and Check-Out Process
You must have a secure check-in and check-out process in place.  Parents must present a matching security tag when picking up a child.  No exceptions!  This helps protect children from someone taking them out of the room.  If you are looking for a solid check-in system, be sure to look at KidCheck.

Step 3 - Rule of 2
I believe this step is the most important.  You see, a child abuser could get through the on-boarding process if they have never been caught.  Nothing would show up on their background check and they might be a very good liar in the interview.

That's why you must always, always, always, always abide by the Rule of 2.  This simply means that no one...under any circumstance...is ever alone with a child.  You never open a classroom until there are 2 volunteers in the room.  If a child has to be walked to the bathroom, 2 people take the child.  A child is never counseled alone by an adult.  A staff member or volunteer never rides alone with a child in a car or church van.  

I know a great church that is going through the heartbreak of a child being abused on their church property.  They had all of these steps in place, but a key volunteer, with no prior history of known abuse, molested a child.  How did this happen?  Somehow...at some point...the rule of 2 was not followed. 

The Rule of 2 must always be kept if you are going to prevent abuse.

Step 4 - Room Visibility
You should be able to see into every room from the hallway.  This includes the nursery, preschool rooms, elementary rooms, offices, breakout rooms, resource rooms, etc.  This helps eliminate the chances of something happening behind closed doors.

Step 5 - Cameras
Cameras should be installed in every classroom, hallway and common area where kids will be.  Everyone should be made aware that the cameras are there and that they are being monitored.  

Step 6 - Limited Access to Your Children's Ministry Areas
Only approved volunteers should be allowed in your children's ministry areas.  And volunteers in the children's ministry areas should be clearly identified by a name tag at the minimum.

Use these steps to build your wall of protection.  Build it strong and walk guard around the precious children God has placed in your ministries' care.

Church Shootings: Safety Measures Every Children's Ministry Needs to Have in Place

Like you, I've been heartbroken while watching the news unfold about the church shooting in Sutherland Springs, Texas.  Yesterday, an armed man walked into the church and began firing, killing 26 people and injuring at least 20 more.

The victims included people from the ages of 18 months to 77 years old.  Among those killed were eight relatives spanning three generations in a single family.

Shootings at churches are becoming more common.  So common that authorities have created a National Church Shooting database.  The database documents 139 shootings at churches between 1980 and 2005, with 185 people being killed, including 36 children.

Since 2005, there have been many other church shootings, including the 2015 shooting at a church in Charleston, South Carolina, which killed 9 people.

Like never before, now is the time for churches to take a hard look at their safety and security measures.  In this article, we'll specifically focus on safety measures that children's ministries need to have in place.

Realize no one is immune to being attacked.  This attack reminds us once again that an attack can happen at any time, at any place.  As news reports are stating, the attack in Sutherland Springs is the last place you would expect something like this to happen.  Don't think your church is immune to being attacked.  It can happen in small towns and big cities.

The truth is most churches are a very soft target.  Think about it.  Service times are known.  Everyone is welcome.  There are usually multiple entries.  Few churches have security personnel or policies in place.  Parking lots are not monitored.  The reality is churches, which should be a safe place, free from violence, are now one of the most vulnerable places to be.

Have security personnel in place.  Hire an armed security officer to be present in your children's ministry area.  The best scenario is to have an armed police officer there in full uniform.  Don't worry, parents and children will not freak out about this.  They will welcome this.  In fact, one of parents' top concerns is their child being safe in a world of terrorism and violence.  Having visible security in place will cause families to return to your church.

In addition to an armed security officer, you should enlist a volunteer safety and security team for your church.  This team should not only monitor the children's ministry area, but the entire church...starting in the parking lot.  A shooter stopped in the parking lot will never make it inside to harm people.

I have friends who were present when a shooter begin firing in their church parking lot a few years ago in Colorado.  The shooter killed a few people in the parking lot and was making his way toward the church building, when a volunteer security guard shot him and prevented him from getting inside the building.  This obviously saved many lives that day.

If your budget prevents you from hiring a uniformed security officer, then at a minimum, you should have a volunteer safety and security team in place.  Again, the best plan is to have both present.

Ideally, the volunteer safety and security team should include individuals with medical and law enforcement training.  Some of them should be licensed to carry a concealed weapon.  Obviously you have to use wisdom in where you will place this team in your children's area.  I would not have any of this team inside the classrooms, but rather in key places in the hallway or entrance areas.  The team must have a clear plan and know what to do in situations.

Limit access to the children's ministry area.  Only approved volunteers and parents with security tags should be allowed in the children's areas.  The children's area should not be a part of the building where people can walk through unmonitored. 

Lock down the children's ministry area.  Once service begins, you should lock down your children's ministry areas.  Lock down the children's ministry hallway.  Lock the classroom doors.  This helps create layers of protection that can stop or hinder a shooter from reaching the children.  People who arrive late are met at the locked door and walked to their room.

Train your team how to respond.  Staff and volunteers should be trained to recognize signs of a person who is agitated, angry, intoxicated or showing aggressive or threatening body language.  Have guidelines in place on how to approach and deny access to these individuals.

What if an active shooter gets inside the building?  Staff and volunteers in the kids' areas should be trained on what to do.

Procedures should be planned with the help of a professional.  There are companies that can help you formulate your plan.  I highly recommend Lion Heart International Service Group.  My friend, Tim Miller, is the founder and CEO.  Tim is a 30-year law enforcement and military professional.  As a Secret Service Special Agent assigned to the Washington Field Office, he coordinated all aspects of security for the President, Vice-President, and foreign heads of state on a regular basis.

Whether it's asking your local authorities for help formulating a plan or consulting with a company like I mentioned above, make sure you formulate a well thought out plan and be prepared.

We live in a broken, sin drenched world.  Tragedy and heartbreak comes at us through both natural disasters and the acts of depraved men.  When will it end?  When Jesus returns and makes all things right.

Until then we must be both "wise as serpents and harmless as doves."  This means we are prepared to defend the precious children and families God has brought to us while sharing the love and hope found in Jesus with all who have not yet experienced His forgiveness and life-changing grace.