Showing posts with label leading children to Christ. Show all posts
Showing posts with label leading children to Christ. Show all posts

The Most Important Thing You Do in Children's & Family Ministry

When you are in children's and family ministry, you are never lacking for things to do.  Many children's and family ministries have a very full calendar. 

If we are not careful, all the "stuff" we involve children and families in can crowd out the most important thing we do.

As leaders, our ministry must first and foremost be about sharing the Gospel with kids and their parents. Just how important is this?  Look what Jesus said.
"He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him."  John 3:36
I didn't wrote it, I just quote it.  God says people who do not believe in Jesus will not have eternal life.  And that includes children who are old enough to understand the plan of salvation and their parents who bring their children to church.

This must be our primary focus.  This should be our passion, because this is Jesus' passion.

What an awesome responsibility we have to clearly share the Gospel with kids and parents.

In a church setting.  Let me share with you what that means.

When I first started out in ministry, I would share the Gospel with children in a large group setting.  I asked the children to raise their hands if they wanted to begin a relationship with Jesus.

I would then pray a large group salvation prayer with the children.  But as I did this, it seemed that some children who prayed didn't understand what they were doing.

So I went back to the drawing board and came up with another plan.  When kids raised their hand, I would pair them up a counselor who would talk with them individually and pray the prayer of salvation with those kids who understood the decision they were making.  This was a big improvement, but there was still a piece missing.  When the parents came to pick them up and we told them their child had prayed a pray of salvation, they were excited, but I could see in their eyes that they wished they had been there and could have experienced the joy of the moment.

This sent me back to the drawing board and this time I felt led by God to make one more big change that would be a game changer leading kids to Christ.

Here's what it is.

When the children raised their hands to say they wanted to ask Jesus into their life, we would make a note of it and then when the parents came to pick them up, we talked with the parents about the decision their child wanted to make.

We shared with the parents that the next step was to bring their child to a one-time, one-hour class where we would carefully explain the Gospel to the children and their parents.  Then at the end of the class, parents would be the ones to lead their child to Christ.  We provided a follow up question booklet that parents could also use at home if they felt their child was not quite ready.

This class was required before we would talk with a child and his or her parents about baptism.  Parents had to attend the class with their child.  No exceptions.

It was a game changer for us.  In one year, we saw 460 children invite Jesus into their life and then follow Him in baptism.  Every single child had been through the class with their parents.  No drop offs.  It was a family class.  And speaking of family class.  We saw dozens and dozens of parents get in the class and realize they needed Jesus to.  Dozens of parents took the step as well and then were baptized with their children.

The class we used is called Starting Point.  I know I'm a little prejudice, but I have been told by those who use it, that it is one of the best materials they have ever seen for helping kids and parents understand the Gospel and what it means to follow Jesus.

Starting Point uses interactive learning, videos, key Bible verses, object lessons and much more to connect kids and parents to the Gospel.  Kids and parents walk out with a clear understanding of what it means to follow Jesus.

Here is one of the videos that helps kids understand that Jesus paid our sin bill.
And here is a video that helps children understand what it means to repent.
And this video talks about inviting Jesus to be your friend.
Here is an example of what it means to enter a relationship with Jesus.  These 3 words will stick with a child (and parent) when they are considering following Jesus.

#1 - You ask Jesus to be your FORGIVER.  This means you turn from your sins and trust Jesus alone to be your forgiver.  You ask Him to forgive your sins.

#2 - You ask Jesus to be your LEADER.  This means you ask Jesus to be your "coach" or "boss."  You promise Him you will follow His commands.  This doesn't mean you will be perfect. But it does mean you will strive to follow Him. 

#3 -  You ask Jesus to be your FRIEND.  Jesus wants to be your best friend. He has sent you "friend request" and He wants you to accept Him as your friend.  It means you are entering a friendship with Jesus.

I can tell you from personal experience that when you share these 3 things with kids and families, that they get it.  Something clicks and they understand what it means to follow Jesus.  In one year, I personally saw over 460 children accept the message of the Gospel and then follow Jesus in baptism.  Every single one had been through the Starting Line class with their parents.

You can get more information about the Starting Line class at this link.  I promise it will be one of the best investments you will ever make in your ministry.  You will see lots of kids and families come to Christ because of it.

Click here for Starting Point Information

I can't emphasize enough how important it is to have a clear, simple strategy to lead kids and their parents to Jesus.  At the end of our ministries, that is what matters most.

God says this in Proverbs 11:30.
The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life; and he that wins souls is wise.
The wisest thing you can do is to reach kids and their parents with the Gospel.  At the end of time, that will be all that matters.  Did the children and parents in your ministry enter a relationship with Jesus.

May we focus on what matters most and give it everything we've got to reach kids and families with the Gospel.  Amen and Amen.

When Is a Child Old Enough to Accept Jesus & Be Baptized?

If you're in children's ministry or you're a parent, you've probably pondered the question, "Is this child old enough to understand what it means to accept Jesus and be baptized?" 

Since beginning a relationship with Jesus is the most important decision a person will ever make, it is crucial that we are prepared to help children and families with this.

While there is no "set age" that a child must be to begin a relationship with Jesus, there are some key indicators you can look for.

Does the child understand abstract concepts?  Normally a child can understand abstract concepts around the age of 7.5 to 8.  In other words, the average four-year-old will think you mean a real bridge when you say Jesus is the bridge back to God.  But when a child understands abstract concepts, they will grasp this as simply an illustration and will connect it to spiritual truth.  

Does the child understand what sin is and realize they have sinned?  Some call this the "age of accountability."  The child must clearly understand that they have sinned and are need of a Savior.  Before you can be "saved" you must first understand you are "lost" without Christ.  The age of accountability is different for each child.  For some kids it could be at age 6.  For other kids it could be at age 9 or 10. 

Does the child understand what Jesus did on the cross?  The child should have a clear understanding of why Jesus came and the price He paid on the cross for our sins.  The child should move beyond just "Jesus died on the cross for me" to understanding that Jesus died on the cross to pay the price of the sin bill we owe.

Does the child understand how one enters a relationship with God?  The child should understand that we enter a relationship with God by asking Jesus to be our Lord and Savior.  They should know we are saved by grace through faith and not by works.

Is the child persistent?  A good sign that God is working in a child's life is the child initiating conversations about it.  The child will begin bringing it up without being prompted.

Want vs. Need.  Do you sense the child "wants" to make a decision or "needs" to make a decision.  There is a difference.  "Want to" can come from being coerced or by seeing other kids make a decision.  "Need to" comes from a sense of the Holy Spirit's drawing.

If you lead a children's ministry, I would encourage you to have a clear process in place for leading children and families to Jesus.

Instead of doing large group "salvation prayers," invite kids to a class where you have time to clearly explain the Gospel and can talk with them individually.  Have parents attend the class with their children.  It is vital to partner with parents during this process.  And the cool thing...as you do this, you will see parents come to Christ as well.

We have created a class called Starting Point for this.  We have seen hundreds of kids and parents go through the class and make a solid decision to follow Christ.  It is available for your ministry at this link.

When a child begins asking questions about following Christ, it's an exciting time.  What a privilege we have to share Jesus with children.  But we also carry a responsibility to help children clearly understand what that means.

It's not our role to push children into a decision nor is it our role to hold them back.  Our role is to walk beside them and encourage them as the Holy Spirit draws them to Jesus.