Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts

Ministry Brain Freeze...What It Is & How You Get Rid of It

We've all had brain freeze before.  You know, that sudden headache you get when eating or drinking something cold.

Ever wander what causes it?  I did a little research and here's what I discovered.

The medical term for brain freeze is sphenopalatine ganglioneuralgia.  Wow...that's a long term.  Now you know why we just call it "brain freeze."

When something cold touches the roof of your mouth, the sudden temperature change causes rapid dilation and swelling of blood vessels.  This is an attempt to direct blood to the area and warm it back up.

The dilation of the blood vessels triggers pain receptors.  This produces inflammation while sending signals to the brain about the problem.

The brain interprets the pain signal as coming from the forehead.  This is called 'referred pain' since the cause of the pain is in a different location from where you feel it.

Brain freeze typically hits about 10 seconds after chilling your palate and lasts about 30 seconds.  A long 30 seconds, I might add.

I've also get ministry brain freeze.  Here's some cold things in ministry that can cause me pain.

A chilly, critical letter that picks apart something we've put blood, sweat, and tears into. 

A cold shoulder from someone I'm inviting to join our volunteer team.

An icy stare from someone we offended through bad guest relations.

The freezing spiritual temperature of a nonchalant parent I'm encouraging to be the spiritual leader of their child.

The coldness I feel when a family I have loved and poured my life into becomes disgruntled and leaves the church.

The frozen heart of a person I'm sharing Christ with who has no interest.

The numb feeling I get when a program or event I put hours and hours into gets a cold response.

So what do you do when you get ministry brain freeze?

My natural urge is to sulk, run, get angry, complain, or just quit.  But I have to resist those things.  They're not the answer to ministry brain freeze.

First, I have to get alone with Jesus and let Him warm my heart back up.  In His presence, the cold pain will begin to melt away.

I must remember that pain can even come from something you love.  I love ice cream.  And most of the time, that's what gives me brain freeze. 

And isn't that just like ministry brain freeze.  I love ministry...but I must remember that it will cause me pain at times.  But it's working through the cold pain that your relationship with Christ and your ministry for Christ will grow deeper.

I must also remind myself that brain freeze is only temporary.  It may hurt for awhile, but it will subside.  Hang on.  Endure the pain and you'll come out stronger and more effective.

Your turn.

What causes you ministry brain freeze?

What do you do when it happens?

What have you learned through it?

Share your thoughts in the comment section.  God will use your words to encourage us. 

What's Sucking the Life Out of You? (Pt. 2)

The leech has two suckers that cry out, "More, more!"  There are three things that are never satisfied--no, four that never say, "Enough!"
Proverbs 30:15

Yesterday we talked about this verse.  In Bible times, horseleeches were a common problem.  It was a parasite that lived in water.  Horses would pick them up when drinking from pools of contaminated water.  The horseleeches would lodge in the horse's throat, nose, or nostrils and begin draining it's very life blood.

A leech is something that seeks to suck the spiritual life out of you.  It's goal is to rob you of your ability to effectively serve the Lord.  It is patient.  It drains you a little at a time until one day you wake up and like Samson in Judges 16:20, "When he woke up, he thought, "I will do as before and shake myself free." But he didn't realize the LORD had left him."  His power to serve was gone and it happened so subtlety he never knew it took place until it was too late.

We talked about 6 leeches that have their sights set on a slow kill.  Today let's look at how to prevent the drain. The tips are listed in blue.

People.  Our ministry is people.  But be careful about people who attach themselves to you and begin to constantly drain you.  It may be someone who is always negative.  It may be someone who repeatedly calls you on your day off and demands the time you have set aside for your family.  It may be someone who instead of following the Biblical counsel you give them would rather just lean on you as an emotional crutch.

1. Surround yourself with positive people.
2. Set boundaries and let people know your day off is reserved for your family.
3. When you are with your family, don't feel like you have to answer your pbone. Better yet, turn off 
    your cell phone.
4. If someone continues to ignore the counsel you give them, draw a line in the sand and let them 
    know you can no longer counsel them until they get serious about wanting help.
5. Remember you are responsible TO people but not FOR people.

Problems.  In ministry, there are always problems that arise.  You can probably think of 3-4 right now that you are dealing with.  And dealing with them can suck the very life out of you.

1. Realize problems are part of forward movement.  The only way to not have any is to do nothing 
    and be nothing.  
2. Deal directly and quickly with problems instead of avoiding them.  Ignoring them won't make them 
    go away.
3. Don't try to solve them alone.  Always get advice from someone you respect and trust.
4. If you have problems weighing heavily on you at bedtime, write them down on a piece of paper with 
    some possible solutions before you try to go to sleep.  It will make it easier to fall sleep.
5. See problems as opportunities to grow.  Face them with purpose instead of self-pity.

Pressure.  The pressure can be a constant life drainer.  Paul reminds us of this in 2 Corinthians 11.  I chuckle when I read it.  He starts off by talking about all he has endured including beating, shipwreck, hunger, prison, and more.  At the end of the list he says, "Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches."

It's like he is saying the toughest part of ministry is the pressure.  We all feel it.  It can come from our leaders but normally it comes from within.  We are driven.  We want to reach the world.  We constantly are striving to get more done and make a bigger impact for Christ. 

1. Realize you can't save the world...you just work for the Person who can.
2. Have hobbies, sports, and other outlets that take your mind off ministry.
3. Act don't react when the pressure rises.
4. Learn to prioritize and organize your time.
5. Remember sometimes 85% is good enough.  The pressure to make it 100% may not be worth it.

Pace.  Ministry can take over your entire life.  It can consume you.  It can easily grab all 7 days of your week.  There is always someone else who needs you...another lesson that needs to be written...a phone call to make...an email to respond to...a family to follow up with...a hurting person to pray with.  You keep telling yourself it will slow down.  But it never does.

1. Find a pace that you can sustain for the long haul.
2. Take your day off...every week.
3. Use your vacation time...all of it.
4. Realize there are times when you have to operate in the red rpm zone.  But make it for short 
    periods and get out.
5. When you are home...be home.  Leave work at the office.

Pain.  Prolonged physical pain can drain you.  Whether it's a bad back, ongoing illness, medical condition, or complications from a surgery...it can suck the joy and vitality out of your life.  I had a friend who had back issues.  It got so bad that he had to quit work.  The bills begin to pile up.  It sucked the life out of him to the point that he committed suicide.
 
1. Have a doctor that you know and trust.
2. Take your time when recovering.  Trying to jump back in too fast can cause you to lose more time in 
     the long run.
3. Don't be too "tough" or proud to ask for help.
4. Have someone you can talk with.  Someone who will really listen.
5. Lean on God's grace.  

Personal sin.  Sin will suck the joy, anointing, and power out of our ministry.  That hidden sin is doing far more damage to your spiritual life than you may know.  The horseleech couldn't be seen on the surface.  It attached itself inside the horse...out-of-sight.  Unforgiveness, lust, pride, anger, bitterness, jealousy and other hidden, personal sins will eventually take you down if not dealt with and forsaken.

1. Yield yourself each morning to the Holy Spirit's control and guidance.
2. Have close friends that hold you accountable and ask you the tough questions.
3. Set protective boundaries around yourself. An example would be not riding alone with a member of 
    the opposite sex other than your spouse.
4. Focus on your relationship with God more than you do on your work for God.
5. Spend time daily in God's Word. Jesus defeated the devil's temptations by quoting Scripture.

For years, I allowed some of these leeches to suck the life out of me to the point where I almost lost my ministry.  This post tells my story and what I learned through it.

Posted by Dale Hudson

6 Things That Can Suck the Life Out of You!


The leech has two suckers that cry out, "More, more!"  There are three things that are never satisfied--no, four that never say, "Enough!"
Proverbs 30:15

In Bible times, horseleeches were a common problem.  It was a parasite that lived in water.  Horses would pick them up when drinking from pools of contaminated water.  The horseleeches would lodge in the horse's throat, nose, or nostrils and begin draining it's very life blood.

A leech is something that seeks to suck the spiritual life out of you.  It's goal is to rob you of your ability to effectively serve the Lord.  It is patient.  It drains you a little at a time until one day you wake up and like Samson in Judges 16:20, "When he woke up, he thought, "I will do as before and shake myself free." But he didn't realize the LORD had left him."  His power to serve was gone and it happened so subtlety he never knew it took place until it was too late.

What is sucking the life out of you?  Here are 6 leeches that have their sights set on a slow kill...and you may not even know it's happening.

People.  Our ministry is people.  But be careful about people who attach themselves to you and begin to constantly drain you.  It may be someone who is always negative.  It may be someone who repeatedly calls you on your day off and demands the time you have set aside for your family.  It may be someone who instead of following the Biblical counsel you give them would rather just lean on you as an emotional crutch.

Problems.  In ministry, there are always problems that arise.  You can probably think of 3-4 right now that you are dealing with.  And dealing with them can suck the very life out of you.  

Pressure.  The pressure can be a constant life drainer.  Paul reminds us of this in 2 Corinthians 11.  I chuckle when I read it.  He starts off by talking about all he has endured including beating, shipwreck, hunger, prison, and more.  At the end of the list he says, "Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches."

It's like he is saying the toughest part of ministry is the pressure.  We all feel it.  It can come from our leaders but normally it comes from within.  We are driven.  We want to reach the world.  We constantly are striving to get more done and make a bigger impact for Christ. 

Pace.  Ministry can take over your entire life.  It can consume you.  It can easily grab all 7 days of your week.  There is always someone else who needs you...another lesson that needs to be written...a phone call to make...an email to respond to...a family to follow up with...a hurting person to pray with.  You keep telling yourself it will slow down.  But it never does.

Pain.  Prolonged physical pain can drain you.  Whether it's a bad back, ongoing illness, medical condition, or complications from a surgery...it can suck the joy and vitality out of your life.  I had a friend who had back issues.  It got so bad that he had to quit work.  The bills begin to pile up.  It sucked the life out of him to the point that he committed suicide. 

Personal sin.  Sin will suck the joy, anointing, and power out of our ministry.  That hidden sin is doing far more damage to your spiritual life than you may know.  The horseleech couldn't be seen on the surface.  It attached itself inside the horse...out-of-sight.  Unforgiveness, lust, pride, anger, bitterness, jealousy and other hidden, personal sins will eventually take you down if not dealt with and forsaken.

So how do you deal with the leeches that are sucking the life out of you?  How do you avoid waking up one day like Samson?

Tomorrow I will share my personal story of allowing leeches to suck the life out of me to the point where I almost lost my ministry.  I'll share what I learned through it and how I dealt with them.  Join me as we talk about how to effectively deal with the things that are draining us.

Posted by Dale Hudson