Dec 27, 2010

It's Okay to Ask "Why?"

In the last 6 months, I've asked God "Why?" several times.

When a precious 4 year old girl lost her battle with cancer...I asked God "Why?"

When there were four coffins lined across the front of our church...four children murdered by their father...I asked God "Why?"

When I met with a family last week who just lost their 8 year old son...I asked God "Why?"

When one of our teenage volunteers is facing surgery next week for a brain tumor...I asked God "Why?"

When I journey with a family whose son has been battling through cancer...I asked God, "Why?"

Some would say to never question God...but I don't think that is realistic. There are times when we don't understand why something happens. It doesn't make sense. It doesn't seem fair. And when those times come, it's okay to look to God and ask "Why?" Sometimes you may get an answer, but many times you will not.

I am reminded that even Jesus asked "Why?" As He hung on the cross, He uttered the words, "My God, my God, WHY have You forsaken me?"

As I journey with families through the "Why?" times of life...I usually don't try to provide an answer. Any answer I would give would seem superficial. I simply let them know that it's okay to ask "Why?" I remind them that no matter what happens...God is a good God...He loves them...even when things don't make sense.

Posted by Dale Hudson

6 comments:

I totally agree; great post. As a former scientist, I do like to ask questions, and then move towards an answer.

When a fellow pastor was in a family crisis situation (health of his child), a counselor brought in told us that it's normal to question and mourn; the key is to not get stuck. Over time, we must move forward, toward God and toward community.

My family is in a bit of a "transition season" now, which is why I wrote this:
http://differentway4kids.blogspot.com/2010/12/god-isnt-safe-but-hes-good.html

Great word Joey. Enjoyed your blog post and the analogy with Aslan. Thanks for sharing.

Very powerful! This post gave me the chills this morning! You are right and no matter how hard we try questions do come up and its ok. This really helps me to realize that there are times this will happen and I will have to help a family deal with differant aspects of their life. I remember a few years ago a families house burnt down and my answer to her was God puts things in your life for a reason. She looked at me like I was crazy. This really helps. Thank you Dale

Leisa Jenkins

Amen! Thank you for your wonderful post and honesty.

Dale great post. I to struggle why but the thing that helps me more than anything is changing the question to "What" because what is infused with hope. When I pause on why to long I get so focused on what happened I can't see "What" God is doing through the tragic circumstance.

Another thing that has helped me is Sally Lloyd-Jones definition of faith in the Jesus Storybook Bible "Knowing that God loves us and because he loves us we can trust him."

Great post. I hate why times. I'll be praying for you.

Thanks for the encouraging words Sam. I agree that knowing God loves us is one of the key things you can stand on during the why times.

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