Tiger Parents

As we seek to partner with parents, it's important to know the different types of parents we are reaching out to.

Amy Chua,Yale Law Professor, has just introduced a new inductee into the extreme parent category. They're called Tiger Parents. Amy, who was raised in a traditional Chinese home, talks about her upbringing in this type environment. In her book "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" she says Tiger Parents are characterized by...
  1. An obsession with their child's success. Many times defined as achievement in precision-oriented fields like music and math.
  2. Prohibiting grades lower than an A.
  3. Not allowing time with friends.
  4. Making statements like, "If next time's not perfect, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and throw them in the trash."
  5. Operate in a culture of discipline.
  6. View children as tough, able to take the abuse.
  7. Extreme, rigid, and authoritarian approach.
  8. Doesn't consider anything fun unless you're good at it.
  9. Believes children should not be sheltered from dangers, disappointments, or harsh critics.
  10. Uses negative reinforcement.
  11. Has a long list of do's and don'ts.
  12. Requires advancement work during holidays and summer time.

  • Were you raised in this type of environment?
  • What are your thoughts on this style of parenting? Do you agree? Disagree? What are the positives? What are the negatives?
  • Do you have parents in your ministry who fit into this category?
  • What advice or parenting tips would you offer to Tiger Parents in your ministry? 
  • How would you approach partnering with and equipping Tiger Parents to be the primary spiritual leaders of their children? 
Tomorrow we'll take a look at another type of extreme parenting - Helicopter Parents.

Posted by Dale Hudson