Feb 6, 2012

Are You Making This Big Mistake in Your Children's Ministry?


A common mistake I see many Children's Ministries making is not having enough boys on their praise team.  This seems to be a struggle for many.  There is a natural tendency to fill up your praise team with girls because they are more willing and ready to participate in the elementary years.

But...it is extremely important to have a solid group of boys on your praise team as well.  Gene Del Vecchio, in his book Creating Ever Cool...A Markers Guide to a Child's Heart, reminds us that boys are turned off during the elementary years if something appears "girlish."  On the other hand, girls will accept something that appears "boyish" during this years.  Bottom line...if you appeal to the girls, you will only connect with the girls.  If you appeal to the boys, you will connect with the boys and girls.

This is why it is so important to have a good mixture of boys on your praise team.  Here are some ways to get more boys involved.

Have a male worship leader.  A male leader will draw boys to your praise team.  If you can find an older high school or young adult male to lead...that's will be an even bigger draw for boys to get involved.

Reserve at least half the slots on the praise team for boys.  The quick, easy route is to just fill up your praise team with girls.  But be intentional about enlisting boys for your praise team.

Use songs that appeal to 5th grade boys.  Walt Disney taught us that we should always appeal to the oldest kids in the group.  Cool runs downhill.  Your target should be a 5th grade boy.  If he connects with the song, then all the kids will think the song is "cool" and engage.

What are your thoughts on this?
Do you think it is important to have boys on the praise team?
What challenges have you faced with getting boys to join the praise team?
What are some things you have done to get boys to join the praise team?

Would enjoy seeing your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below.

Posted by Dale Hudson

2 comments:

This is a great post! Something we strove for. With Elementary age kids, we always wanted to have male worship leaders (sometimes on smaller campuses, or on a rare weekend, we had a female singer, but we worked to have that only for a short season). In preschool, it was more dominated by females, but over the years we got more male teenagers in there serving.

I think a big part for boys is to recruit 2-3 at a time. Let them know they won't be the only male in there. Especially important for young teenagers.

Also, it would help a lot when our male worship leader would serve as a sort of mentor, especially for younger males. Helps the boys feel more connected quicker.

Great stuff Joey. I think it's a challenge for most ministries. I know it has been for us. Thanks for sharing the ideas.

Post a Comment