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Showing posts with label work. Show all posts

Do You Emotionally Crash After Big Events? Here's 6 Things You Need to Know

You spend weeks or even months planning and preparing for a big event, program or day. 

It finally arrives and everything goes well or even exceeds your expectations.  In spite of that, you wake up the next day and instead of feeling great joy, you feel like quitting.  You are emotionally spent.  You feel like you have nothing more to give.  And you wonder what's wrong...you wonder why you are feeling this way.

Don't worry and don't quit.  What you are experiencing is normal.  Here's five things to know about why you crash.

You're experiencing an emotional let down of going from an exciting, challenging, pressure-filled situation to one that’s less demanding.  When you are in the midst of preparing for the big event, your adrenaline is pumping.  Once the event is over, the sense of urgency and adrenaline rushes you felt slow down or even stop.  This causes a withdrawal.

What to do?  Be aware that this is going to happen.  It will help you understand what you are feeling.

You feel like you are going from exciting work back to a "boring" routine. 

What to do?  Fight this by establishing an ongoing growth routine that will keep you challenged, even when you don't have a "big event" going on.

You are experiencing a form of burnout.  Pulling off a big event takes lots of mental, emotional, and physical effort.  Many times, the amount of energy it takes exceeds the amount of energy you have in reserve.  When this happens, you burn out.  This means when you think about post-event work like follow-up, you feel overwhelmed and you don't think you can pull it off.

What to do?  Set expectations for what you can realistically do before, during, and after the event so you have something left to give after it's over.

You probably have a backlog of regular work that has accumulated while you were pulling off the big event.  The rest of your job didn't stand still and now feeling like you can't catch up is discouraging.

What to do?  Instead of diving right into the work, take time to sit down and list, clarify and prioritize what needs to be done.  This will give you a new sense of direction that is energizing.

Your tank is empty.  As mentioned above, you've spent out all of your energy.  You've got nothing left to give.

What to do?  Take some time off.  If you can't take an extended period of time off, then schedule some short breaks.  Get away from your work and take a walk, exercise, do a hobby you like, spend time with a friend, turn off your email and just relax. 

You reached your goal.  To stay engaged, we require new experiences and challenges. 

What to do?  Find something new to be excited about.  Make time to explore new ideas and opportunities. 

Conclusion...
How you feel and what you do following a big event is just as important in the long run as the event itself.  Knowing what to do with the feelings and burnout you experience will help you move from one big win to a consistent streak of wins.

The floor is yours...
Do you experience this after big events or programs?
How do you respond to these feelings?
What has helped you bounce back after a big event or program?
Share with us in the comment section below.

Have You Heard the Good News For Family Ministry?

Studies show that Gen X parents are more focused on their family than their Boomer parents were.  76% of Gen X employees say they have no interest in gaining their manager’s position.  Much of this mindset comes from seeing their older bosses spend long hours at the office to the neglect of their families and personal lives.

In theory, it would seem Gen X parents in their 30’s and 40’s would be the frontrunners in seeking a promotion since they have children, have recently bought a house, are paying of a car loan, etc.  But this is not the deciding factor for them. 

No...they are not slackers.  They are simply more family-oriented.   A defining characteristic of Gen X parents is involvement in their children’s lives.   Unlike their Boomer parents, Gen X parents would rather pass on the promotion that involves longer hours and instead go home to be with their kids.

Part of the reason may be Gen Xer’s memories of lonely afternoons and early evenings because their Boomer parents were working long hours.  They want to be there for their children.

Ironically, Gen Xer’s are working more hours than their Boomer parents, but the big difference is they are working smarter.  Technology is allowing them the ability to work from home a lot more.  A recent study shows there has been a 61% increase in people working from home since 2005.  This gives them flexibility in their schedule and the ability to spend more time with their family at home.

This is good news if you are ministering to families.  Gen X parents are at home with their children more.  Gen X parents care about their child’s spiritual formation.  Gen X parents want to be involved and take the lead in discipling their children.  If we place the proper tools in their hands, they will step up to the plate spiritually for their children.

Ponder these questions…

How are you encouraging Gen X parents to be the spiritual leader of their children?

What discipleship tools are you placing in Gen X parent’s hands?  

How are you helping Gen X parents leverage the time they have at home with their children?

Share your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below.

Posted by Dale Hudson

Top 5 Deathbed Regrets

Recently a nurse who worked in palliative care shared the leading deathbed regrets of those she cared for.  Her patients were those who had gone home to die.  She was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their life as they experienced a variety of emotions including denial, fear, anger, and remorse.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again.  Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 
It's important that you follow God's plan for our life...not what someone else has planned for you.  What are the dreams God has placed in your heart that you haven't followed because of the boxes others have placed around you?  What are you waiting for?  Make 2012 the year you start fulfilling God's destiny for your life.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. 
You keep telling yourself that the work is going to slow down.  But it won't...so you've got to be the one who slows down.  Make this the year that the kids' ballgames take priority over climbing the ladder. Make this the year that you make it home in time for dinner.  Make this the year that you use your vacation time...all of it.  Make this the year that you replace overtime with extra time with your family.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Who do you need to say "I love you" to?  Who needs to hear "I forgive you?"  Who have you been putting off confronting just to "keep the peace?"  Is silent bitterness and resentment building because you are suppressing words that could bring healing?  Let this be the year you have the difficult conversations you've been avoiding.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
It's easy to get so caught up in our own lives that we let friendships slip.  But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away.  It is not money or status that holds the true importance.  It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.  Pick up the phone in 2012 and call that friend you've lost touch with.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
We can get so caught up with the mundane tasks of everyday life that we forget to laugh and be silly. We can take ourselves way too seriously.  Do you spend more time frowning than you do smiling?  Tell more jokes this year.  Learn to laugh at yourself.  Let go and smile again.  Let the joy of the Lord flood over the problems and pressures you are facing.

As we enter 2012, let's live with these things in mind now so we are not full of regrets later.

Posted by Dale Hudson