If you're trying to reach young families with children, then the demographic you're trying to connect with are the Millennials.
Look closely at the average church and you won't find an abundance of Millennials. The nursery is quiet due to lack of parents bringing their children. The preschool area, that should be full, has a shrinking attendance.
Look around during worship and you'll see a lot more gray hair than you do young couples.
Why is this? Obviously, it's because more and more Millennials are leaving the church. Which leads to the bigger question. Why are Millennial parents exiting the church?
Studies show that church attendance among 22-to-35-year-olds is the lowest in recent history. Look at these sobering stats:
- Only 2 in 10 people under 30 believe attending a church is important or worthwhile (an all-time low).
- 59% of Millennials raised in the church have dropped out.
- 35% of Millennials have an anti-church stance, believing the church does more harm than good.
- Millennials are the least likely age group of anyone to attend church.
We aren't including them in planning the future of the church. Millennials want the opportunity to speak into the direction, strategies and vision of the church. They highly value this and refuse to be a part of a church that ignores their input.
If we are going to see Millennial parents become part of and help lead the future church, then we must give them a voice in planning that future.
Practical steps to take:
- Give them a seat at your church's leadership table.
- Host focus groups for Millennial parents. Listen to their feedback and ideas.
- Have special events and classes that are geared for young couples.
Practical steps to take:
- Provide Millennials with opportunities to make a difference.
- Provide Millennials with opportunities to serve and make a difference with their child.
- Show Millennials how their involvement is making a difference.
Practical steps to take:
- Get small groups involved in serving together outside the 4 walls.
- Help supplement and sponsor young Millennials to go on mission trips.
- Share stories of young adults who went on a mission trip and the fruit that's resulted from it.
Millennials can see right through the curtain. They see the politics, power struggles and lack of unity, and they want no part of it.
Practical steps to take:
- Create a culture of unity that is based on the church's vision.
- The less red tape, the better. Realize you don't need a committee for getting permission to buy some more toilet paper for the bathrooms. Empower the staff team to be able to make decisions while balancing it with accountability.
- Make decisions not based on the preference of the few, but on what's best for the future of the church.
Practical steps to take:
- Be totally transparent about where funds are being spent.
- Show how the money is being used to help others with a special emphasis on helping the poor and needy.
- Church staff salaries should be in line with what the average family in the congregation makes. In other words, they should live comfortably, but not exorbitantly.
Practical steps to take:
- Move from rows of chairs to round tables as much as possible. This naturally causes more conversations to happen.
- Make sure classes for both parents and children incorporate open-ended questions that can spark deeper conversations.
- Equip small group leaders to be excellent facilitators rather than lecturers.
Lack of community. Millennials long to be in community and they want their children to be in community as well.
Practical steps to take:Create small groups that address the felt needs of Millennials.
Have small groups for their children. Whether it's a traditional classroom setting or a small group time after large group time, get their kids in a group where they can be known, cared for and prayed for by a caring small group leader.
- Set up serving opportunities where small groups can serve together.
Practical steps to take:
- Create environments where Millennials can ask questions about these issues.
- Provide mentors for Millennials who can bring wisdom and guidance to the table.
- Remember tolerance is a big value of Millennials. Talk with them, but don't argue with them, about controversial issues. Relationship is how you will influence them.
I want to encourage you to talk through the points listed above with your team. Have some honest, no-holds-barred conversations about this. Be willing to let go of the past and change what is not working. It can be done. I was at a church a few weeks ago that was brimming with Millennial parents and their children. It can still be done, if you're willing to adjust as needed.
The hope for the world is the church. And the hope for the church is to pass along our faith to the generations following us.
Your turn. The floor is yours. Are you seeing fewer Millennials and their children in your church? Share your thoughts and insights in the comment section below.