Showing posts with label new families. Show all posts
Showing posts with label new families. Show all posts

Helping New Families Feel Welcome...Tips from One Family's Experience


You only get one opportunity to make a first impression with new families.  And it normally determines if they decide to return to your church or not.  Follow up is in vain if a family has a bad first experience.

That being said, how do you make a new family feel welcome?  I recently read about a family that had a great experience not at church...but with an airline.  But what they shared translates right into your ministry.  You see, when it comes to first impressions and customer service, families don't differentiate between a church and a place of business.  If you give them a crappy first experience, they're not going to give you a pass, just because it says "church" on the sign out front.

Let's take a look at this mother's response to the airline and what caused her to say it was a great experience.  It reveals some great tips on making new families feel welcome and cared for.  I've highlighted these parts in blue.

"As a mama who has flown with small children dozens of times on your airline, I can honestly say the kindness you gifted us today went above and beyond.  I shall share my tale because the good in our world is too often swallowed by the not so good.  Not by me.

Today, a cold December morning, my four children and I made our way to Raleigh-Durham International Airport (RDU).  Flying alone with my pack is not for the faint of heart, though I was gifted with the realization that the ease of one's journey has much to do with the kindness encountered.  This mama and her four children, the youngest with special needs, was shown gentleness and warmth at every turn.  It really matters.  Did you know that?  I never knew that.  I had decided to drop off our luggage outside, before parking, so as to avoid hauling it on and off the shuttle bus.  Your smiling agent waiting on the curb, seemingly just for me, whisked my bags away and encouraged me to wait in the warm car as he did all things necessary.  Within minutes, he returned to hand me my license and five boarding passes.  Merry Christmas, he said.  Kindness.  Once we finally made our way inside, kindness again.  Please come this way, no need to wait in the long line.  This one is for priority customers.  Our precious Amos, still in his footy pajamas so often makes things tougher, but not with your airline.  My older children were enchanted with this preferred treatment and so was I.  Nothing seemed to be a problem.  Today, I needed nothing to be a problem.  We made our way to the gate and though we weren't first class customers, much to my daughter's dismay, we were ushered forward.  Yes, smiling gate agents beckoned my motley crew to the front of the line, spattered with ketchup and Amos, still in those feety pajamas with his right big toe peeking out now.  Early boarding meant plenty of time to get little people settled and comfortable.  This new plane had individual screens with movies and games and we were all given head phones, no need to pay, the gentle eyes spoke.  Before I knew it, another jovial flight attendant had gotten ahold of my phone and was snapping pictures, a kind gesture recognized by a mother that is too often absent in the snapshot.  Michele with her kind eyes and Frank with his necklace of blinking lights, reminded us that people really do care about families like my own.  "They think we're important, Mom.  Amos is important."  Thank you.  Before, during and after flight 1266 today, you made a mother and four children feel awfully special.  What a Christmas gift.

Wow!  This letter is full of tips for making new families feel welcome!  Let's take a look at a few of them.

Kindness - people will remember how you treated them.  How do you make new families feel?  How do you treat them? 

Went above and beyond - How can you go the second mile to make families feel welcome?  What are some little things you can do?

Gentleness and warmth at every turn - Families will remember every interaction they have.  Disney has reminded us that while no one owns the guest, everyone owns the moment they are with the guest.

Smiling agent - Smiling makes a big difference.  People remember this.

Seemingly just for me - How can you give undivided, individual attention to each family?

No need to wait in the long line - People hate waiting in line.  How can you keep your check in, drop off and pick up lines short?  Do you have a separate check-in area for guests?

Nothing seemed to be a problem - Do you make people feel like they are bothering you or blessing you?

Individual movie and game screens and we were all given head phones - What are some little things you can give families to make their visit easier and more convenient?

Jovial flight attendant -Volunteers' attitude and appearance makes a difference.

Snapping pictures - provide opportunities for families to take pictures together.

Kind eyes - People can tell in your eyes if they are welcome or not.

Necklace of blinking lights - What are some little fun things you can do to create a fun environment for guests?

Feel awful special - How can you make new families feel special?

I would encourage you to sit down as a team and walk through these points.  Hit these and you'll see more families have a great experience and return. 

10 Volunteers You Need in Your Children's Ministry

Did you know that there are 10 special volunteers that you need on your team?  Let me introduce them to you.  I know they have "cheesy" names...but trust me...get them on your team and your ministry will flourish.

Faithful Frederick.  He is dependable.  He is consistent.  You can count on him to be there...week in and week out.  And if he's going to be out of town, he will let you know ahead of time.  His faithfulness will not only make him a pillar in your ministry, but kids will feel safe and secure as well because he will be a consistent adult in their life at church.

Prayer Warrior Patricia.  She prays for the ministry.  She prays for the kids.  She prays for the other volunteers.  She prays for you.  The time she spends in her prayer closet brings a fresh anointing of God's Spirit upon the ministry. 

Feedback Francesca.  She provides you with one of the greatest gifts you can receive from a volunteer....
feedback!  She helps you know what's working and what's not working.  Her input keeps you from making the same mistake twice.  And don't label her as a complainer...
she has your best interest in mind.  In fact, don't wait for her feedback...ask for it.

Role Model Reggie.  Do you have boys who need a role model?  He is your man.  He makes a great small group leader.  He is a man of character and integrity.  He knows how to make an impact in the lives of kids. 

Calming Cassandra.  She works wonders in the nursery.  Have a little one that is crying?  Just bring him to Cassandra.  She helps make the nursery a calm, reassuring place for babies and parents alike.  She's everyone's sweet little grandmother.

High-Schooler Hayden.  He's who every kid wants to be and they look up to him.  Sometimes he needs a little extra shepherding just because he's still young himself, but what an impact he can make in the lives of the kids. 

Second Mile Sierra.  She's your right hand.  She comes in during the week and helps prepare the rooms.  She's at every training meeting.  She sends birthday cards to the kids in her class.  She spends money out of her own pocket on supplies.  She helps until the last task is done and then asks, "Is there anything else I can help with?"  You have to tell her to go home at times.  You don't know what you'd do without her. 

Happy Hadassah.  You make sure she's the first person a new family sees when they walk through the doors.  Her smiling face puts everyone she meets at ease and brightens their day. 

Big Kid Bryan.  He's a grown man...but he still knows how to act like a big kid when he's serving.  He gets right in the middle of the kids and play games, laughs with them and makes activities lots of fun.  He's a kid magnet and they love being in his class.

Cheerleader Chelsey.  She brings energy and excitement to the team.  She's the life of the volunteer party.  She encourages everyone around her and lifts their spirits.  She is Mrs. Optimism. 

As you read through these, I'm sure you thought of some real people on your team who exemplify these characteristics.  Drop them a note this week and thank them for who they are and for what they bring to the team.  And if you're missing any of these people on your team, I pray God will send them to you.  They can help make your team complete.

10 Things Successful Children's Ministry Leaders Do On Monday Morning

Monday morning.  It follows a weekend of ministry while simultaneously ushering in a new week of ministry opportunities.  Successful children's ministry leaders know how important it is to start their week off strategically and not just stumble through it.  Here are 10 things they do to ensure Monday propels them forward to a great week of ministry.

1. They re-fill their tank.  A weekend of ministry can drain your tank.  You give...give...and give all weekend.  It can deplete you emotionally and physically.  Successful children's ministry leaders know this and take time to re-fill their tank on Monday morning through time with God and meditating on His Word.

For many who are in full-time vocational ministry, Monday is their day off and they take time to rest and replenish physically as well.  Whether Monday is your day off or not, it should be a day where you find time to re-fill your tank in some way.

2. They write appreciation notes.  They take time to write at least 4 to 5 appreciation notes to volunteers, parents and co-workers.

3. They look back and learn.  They look back at the weekend, ask these three questions and learn from the answers.
  • What went well?
  • What needs to be improved, changed or stopped?
  • How did we see God move?  What life change can we celebrate?
4. They check the dashboard.  These are vitals like attendance, first-time guests, volunteers, salvations, baptisms, return guests, etc.  They look for patterns, trends, areas of strength and areas that need attention.  They keep a pulse on what areas are growing, plateauing or declining.
 
5. They make a to-do-list for the week.  They plan out their work for the week.  This includes incorporating any notes they made coming out of the weekend.

6. They prioritize their work.  They prioritize the list they made to ensure the most important things...the biggest impact things...the things that will move the ministry forward...get done.  This includes focusing on the things only he or she can do as the leader and delegating the rest when possible.

7. They prepare for meetings.  If they have meetings with staff, volunteers, parents or other leaders, they prepare. 

8. They make sure new families will be followed up with.  Whether it's a postcard, phone call, email, text or other form of communication, they make sure new families are contacted within 48 hours of their visit.

9. They respond to emails.  Instead of letting emails pile up, they get to them early.

10. They send a report to their Pastor or direct report.  They are pro-active in keeping their Pastor updated by sending a brief report from the weekend about what went well, improvement steps and praise reports.

Go Ahead...Make Their Day

We all know how important it is to make new families feel welcome on their first visit.  But don't settle for just meeting their expectations.  Think about this.
How do you exceed guests' expectations?  One way is to make their day.  In other words, do something that is so far above and beyond what they would expect, that they never forget it.  Let me give you an example.

This past weekend, we met a new family.  As we were helping them get checked in, we began talking to the little girl.  She was precious.  4 years old.  We asked her what her favorite Christmas present was.  She answered with great articulation, "Chocolate!  I'm a chocolate girl!  I love chocolate!"  Her mom laughed with us about her enthusiasm for chocolate.

During service we went and got a giant chocolate, Hersey's candy bar (it was like a foot long).  When mom came to pick her up, the candy bar was handed to them with a handwritten note thanking them for coming.  They were blown away!

Think about the impact you can have if you do this for at least one family per week.  Try it...
  • Be on the lookout for an opportunity.  It may come by overhearing a conversation in the hallway between two parents, asking a new child what their favorite candy or toy is or by talking with the family while you are checking them in.
  • Totally surprise them.  When you make someone's day, it catches them by surprise.  The fact they didn't expect it, makes it memorable.
  • Make it personal.  It needs to be something very specific that connects with something you just learned about them.  Giving the little girl a chocolate candy bar because she specifically mentioned it's her favorite is an example.  This may mean making a quick trip to the store during the service to grab something they mentioned.
  • Make it no-strings-attached.  Don't make it conditional like "come back next week and we will give this to you."  Do it just to "make their day."  If you make their day, don't worry...they will be back.  
 Go ahead...make their day.

1 Big Thing You Should Remind Your Volunteers About

This past weekend, I was walking around encouraging our volunteers.

I stopped and spent a few minutes with Lamont.  Lamont is a big guy.  A man's man.  He serves on our volunteer security team and helps keep the kids safe while they are here.  This includes locking and unlocking doors, helping walk kids to the bathroom, blocking the people traffic flow when our preschoolers are crossing into the park for chapel, and much more.

As a talked with Lamont, God reminded me to tell him something.  Here's what it was.

"Lamont, I want you to know that what you do makes a huge impact on families.  New families are usually nervous when they walk in here for the very first time.  One of the things they are wandering about is if their kids are going to be safe.  When they see you, it helps them feel at ease.  They are able to go to the service and listen to the message without being worried about the safety of their child.  As a result, many of them come to Christ.  And you play a significant part in that.  That's WHY you're here."

"You also help kids transition to chapel time where they hear God's Word taught.  You make it possible for them to transition safely and you have a part in every child who is impacted by God's Word during chapel time.  That's WHY you're here."

Your smiles and "welcomes" to families makes them feel at home.  Many of them come back because you helped make feel welcome.  As a result, many of them begin a relationship with Jesus.  That's WHY you do what you do.

Lamont's eyes lit up.  He looked at me, smiled, and said, "thank you."  I could tell it meant a lot to him to be reminded of why he is serving.

Don't just thank your volunteers for serving.  Take it to the next level by reminding them of "why" they are serving.

Example - "Thank you for teaching the 2nd graders today."  (that's the what)  This is good, but take it to the next level by reminding the volunteer of why they served today.

"Wow...I so appreciate your heart for God and the kids.  Because you served today, many of those kids will find Christ as their Savior.  And the truths you taught them will impact their lives."  (that's the why)

See the difference?  Don't just stop with the what - remind them of the why.  It will bring encouragement and energy to your volunteers.

A Way to Get New Families to Return

We recently implemented a guest reception strategy for our Children's Ministry.  As guest families check-in, we invite them to stop by a reception after the service.

We have a room set up with popcorn, snacks, etc.  Some of our staff and volunteers are there to greet them, answer questions, and spend time with them.

New families love it and it provides a great opportunity to build a relationship with them.  This initial touch gets many families to return and become a part of our church family.  Try it.  It works.

Here are some pictures of the reception room we have set up for them.