The Few...The Loud...The Antagonists

Here's a fact of life. No matter what you do in children's ministry...someone is not going to like it. Stats show that at least 2% of people are going to become disgruntled, angry, or opponents of anything you do. And that 2% is usually vocal about it...very vocal about it.

A lot of us in ministry are people pleasers. I am. I want everyone to be happy, be thrilled with the ministry, and cheer for us loudly. But it usually doesn't work that way. Yes, 98% of the people are satisfied, but at least 2% or more are usually not happy and they let me know about it.

And that's okay. In recent years, I've gotten more used to this and accepted it as a part of leadership. Here's some things I've learned and am still learning.
  • I listen to the antagonists. There is usually something I can learn from them...there is usually at least a grain of truth in what they are saying. What they say may or may not have any bearing on decisions, but I'd be foolish not to listen.
  • I don't develop my ministry philosophy and programming based on the extremes of antagonists or "anything you say" supporters. Usually I try to land in the middle of the two. Right where the average family and average child is. This enables me to connect with the biggest percentage of people.
  • One thing is for sure...if you try to please everyone, you'll drive yourself berserk. The quickest way to failure is to try to accommodate everyone.
  • Don't let the backlash of the 2% keep you from seeing the blessings of the 98%.
 Posted by Dale Hudson

"Life in 3D" Lesson

Looks like 3D is back, improved, and here to stay. The number of 3D movies being made continues to escalate...many of them movies for kids. And now there are 3D TV's that you can watch with the same glasses you use in theaters.

But guess what? In the next few years ,we will see the evolution of 3D that will NOT require glasses.Eventually 3D will be the norm for most programming...no matter what kind of screen you're looking at...television....computer...phone...etc.

In this video interview, James Cameron (Director of Avatar) shares with Eric Schmidt (CEO of Google) the 3D wave that is coming. How is it possible? Listen to James and you will understand. 

Speaking of 3D, we are constantly looking for ways to share the Gospel with kids by using culturally relevant connections. We had a great response a couple of months ago when we created a lesson using silly bandz. 

This past weekend, we shared a lesson with the kids that we created using 3D glasses and images. The lesson was called "Life in 3D." The kids not only walked away with a pair of 3D glasses, but they also walked away with a 3D presentation of the Gospel. It was awesome to see them connect (that happens when you tap into their culture) and realize that life with Jesus is so much cooler and clearer.

If you'd like a copy of the lesson and images we used, feel free to email me at dalehudsoncm2@gmail.com and I'll send it to you. I can also give you the link to the online store where we got the 3D glasses for a great price.

Posted by Dale Hudson

We're Surrounded by Stories

Did you know you are surrounded by stories? The stories of people's lives unfold around us every day. What reminded me of this was sitting through jury duty selection this morning. If you've ever been selected for jury duty, you know the process. 20-30 people go into the courtroom and from those people the attorneys pick a handful of jurors.

The attorneys determine who they will select by asking each person about their family, work, life experiences, and more. As I sat there, I listened as people's stories unfolded all around me. There was the young lady in front of me whose baby died at 2 1/2 months. There was the elderly lady whose husband just passed away in May. There was the man sitting beside me who wore an eye patch and walked with a cane due to being in an automobile accident last year.

I am always interested when people share their story. Okay, I admit...sometimes it can start out a little mundane, but usually somewhere in their journey they've had something really cool...or something really sad happen in their life...or both. You never know what you're going to hear.

Last week one of my friends, who is a volunteer in our kidmin, shared his story with me. He was born in Liberia, Africa. His father was one of the top political figures in the country. When my friend was 8 years old, rebel forces overthrew the government. The rebel soldiers came to his house at night looking for his father. He, his brothers, and his mother hid in a back room. He told me he knew he was going to die...as an 8 year old boy he wondered how bad it would hurt when the bullets hit him.

The soldiers checked the entire house...except the room they were in. When they came to the door, they suddenly turned and left the house. Nothing short of a miracle. Shortly thereafter the rebels found his father and executed him. My friend fled the country with his mother and brothers and came to the U.S.  I would never have dreamed he went through something like that until I asked about his story. Now years later, His aunt is the first female president of the country.

Here's the cool thing! God wants to use you and I to help impact and make people's stories better. When they come in contact with God through you, their story can be radically changed. My family's story was changed for generations when God sent a man to invite us to church for the first time.

How can we be used of God to intersect and impact other people's stories?
  • Share your story with others. Tell them about the journey God has taken you on so far. 
  • Ask people to share their story with you.
  • Listen for people's stories. You may overhear it through a side conversation or when someone begins to share a prayer request.
  • Watch for people whose story currently involves pain or heartache. You will see it in their eyes. 
  • Ask God to use your life to impact other people's story and even see it radically changed if needed.
  • Put action behind your prayers. When God speaks to you about helping them...obey...instantly.
Each and every day we are surrounded by people's stories. I was surrounded this past weekend by stories. There was the boy whose dad doesn't attend church with him. His story needed an encouraging word. There was the father who is in the middle of a divorce and is heartbroken that his little girls are having to go through it. He walked through the doors of our church for the very first time and his story needed hope. There was the story of the dad whose son is facing cancer surgery tomorrow. His story needed prayer. There was the volunteer who is trying to raise three boys by herself and feels overwhelmed. Her story needed some hugs and prayers from some of the ladies on our kidmin staff.

Share your story this week. Look around this week. Listen this week. Watch this week. Stories will unfold all around you. Ask God to use you to change someone's story. And when He puts the opportunity in front of you, obey and let Him write the next chapter through you.