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Showing posts with label parent partnership. Show all posts

An Inside Look at Our Children's Ministry Staff Retreat (Pt.2)

In yesterday's post, I shared the schedule for our children's ministry summer staff retreat.

Today, I'm going to share the teaching notes from the sessions.

As stated, the theme for the retreat was "Full Things Fill Things."  The bottom line - we must stay filled ourselves if we are going to fill others.

We talked about 4 key areas that we must stay filled up in.  Here are the notes from these sessions.

Fill Up with Discipleship (speaker - Dave Simele, Campus Pastor at our Boynton Beach Campus)
  • Personal discipleship is personal.
  • It's a discipline.
  • It's intentional.
  • It's habitual.
  • The quality of your personal life and public ministry is determined by the quality of time you spend in your sacred place.
  • "And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, He departed and went out into a desoloate place, and there he prayed. " Mark 1:35
  • "Immediately He made His disciples get into the boat and go before Him to the other side, to Bethsaida, while He dismissed the crowd.  And after He had taken leave of them, He went up on the mountain to pray."  Mark 6:45-46
  • If Jesus needed sacred space...if Jesus created space...how much more do you and I need sacred space?
  • The sacred place can never be second place.
  • Your ability to visit the sacred place will determine the pace of your life.
  • Sacred place:
    • Daily Sabbath
    • Weekly Sabbath
    • Sabbath Retreat
    • Vacation Sabbath
  • Daily sacred place: 
    • specific place
    • secluded place
    • scheduled place
    • seasonal place
    • shared place
  • Discussion questions:
    • What does your sacred place space look like?
    • Who or what keeps you from visiting the sacred place and how can you change it?
    • What is your sacred place rhythm and how healthy is it today?
    • What are you going to do this summer to get filled?
Fill Up with Leadership (speaker - Craig Johnson, Director of Ministries at Lakewood Church in Houston, Texas)
  • When you build others, God will build you.
  • Live as a healer.
  • Don't look for good ideas...look for God ideas.
  • The little things make the big things.
  • Be an owner of the vision...not a renter of the vision.
  • Find something that inspires you so you can inspire others.
  • Be a dream maker not a dream breaker.
  • Your emotional life is dictated by your devotional life.
  • Remind people of their value.
  • Volunteers are not looking for a job...they are looking to make an impact.
  • Your goal is never more important than your people.
  • Commitment levels are gauged by fulfillment levels.
Fill Up with Parent Partnership (I led this session)
  • If we really want to influence kids, we must influence their parents. 
  • When you reach a child you change a life...when you reach parents you change the whole family.
  • Call 5 parents a week and ask how you can pray for their child.
  • Four keys to influencing parents to lead their children spiritually:
    • Connect with them at church (look for ways to talk with and connect with parents on weekends just as much as you do with their kids)
    • Conversation starters (influence parents to have spiritual conversations with their kids during the week through take home pages, social media, videos, text mesages, etc.)
    • Create shared experiences (family events, family worship experiences, etc.)
    • Celebrate spiritual milestones with them (baby dedication, baptism, Bible presentation, etc.)
Fill Up with Mentorship (speaker - Cherie Duffey, Children's Ministry Director at Newspring Church in Anderson, South Carolina.)
  • Care org chart - 1 person caring for 5 people
  • Know people's names
  • Stop - don't be so busy that you don't make time for what is most important - people
  • Look - look for ways to invest in people
  • Listen - listen to those you are mentoring
    • listen not just with your ears, but with your heart as well
  • Mentor kids - Create a way for elementary kids who are there for more than one service to volunteer during a service.  Examples...
    • helping in preschool
    • cleaning toys
    • putting supplies together
Pour Out (I led this session)
  • We get filled up to fill others. (Genesis 1:22)
  • As we fill others...God re-fills us. (Luke 6:38, Malachi 3:10)
  • Jesus is our example - He poured out His life for us. (Matthew 26:28)
  • Paul is an example- he poured out his life for God and others. (Philippians 2:17, 2 Timothy 4:6)
  • Pour out yourself to God. (John 12:3)
  • Pour out yourself to others. 
    • Co-Laborers
      • help them succeed
      • help them shine
      • help them stay faithful
    • Volunteers
      • help them deepen their faith
      • help them discover what God has placed in them
      • help them devote themselves to a cause that is bigger than themselves
    • Kids
      • help them know God
      • help them be known
      • help them know they matter
    • Parents
      • help them love God above all else
      • help them lead their children spiritually
      • help them leave a spiritual legacy
We gave each person a jar like you see pictured.  As we taught the sessions, we had them fill it up with Starbursts.  At the end of the day, we challenged them to pour out what they had received.
  • They were given 4 small gift boxes and 4 note cards.
  • They were asked fill the boxes with the Starbursts from their jar, write a note to go along with each box and give it to a co-laborer, volunteer, child and parent in the next two weeks.
Day 2 Notes:

Devotion and Prayer - we talked about the importance of daily spending time with God.

"Anointing is not something that can be learned.  It comes from spending time with Jesus." 

Leadership Lid - a "lid" is a barrier that is holding you back from getting to the next level.

We listed some personal and ministry lids that we need to break through.

We talked about John Maxwell's "5 Rules for Lifting Lids."
1. Lead yourself well.
2. Add value to people.
3. Study leadership.
4. Practice leadership.
5. Intentionally grow.

We talked about ways we can lift the lids we are facing.

An Inside Look at Our Children's Ministry Summer Staff Retreat (Pt.1)

Each summer, we do a two-day retreat for our children's ministry staff.

This is a time of reflection, recharging, relationship building and growth.  It also helps us prepare for the fall ministry season.

This year's staff retreat theme was "Full Things Fill Things."  The focus was on staying filled ourselves so we can pour into the lives of others.

Below are the schedules for the two days if you'd like an inside look at our retreat.  Tomorrow, I will post all the teaching notes from the two days.

Day 1:
  • 8:30 am - Breakfast
  • 8:45 am - Worship
  • 8:50 - 9:15 am - Fill Up with Discipleship (speaker - Dave Simele, campus pastor at our Royal Palm Campus) 
  • 9:15 - 9:45 am - Table discussions 
  • 9:45 - 10:15 am - Fill Up with Leadership (speaker - Craig Johnson, Director of Ministries at Lakewood Church, Houston)
  • 10:15 - 10:45 am - Table discussions
  • 10:45 - 11:00 am - Break
  • 11:00 - 11:30 am - Fill Up with Parent Partnership      (I led this session)
  • 11:30 - 12:00 pm - Table discussions
  • 12:00 - 12:30 pm - Fill Up with Mentorship (speaker - Cherie Duffey - Children's Ministry Director at Newspring Church in Anderson, SC)
  • 12:30 - 1:30 pm - Lunch break & campus presentations
  • 1:30 - 2:00 pm - Table discussions
  • 2:00 - 3:00 pm - Games & discussion about how to connect kids to environments
  • 3:00 - 3:15 pm - Desert break
  • 3:15 - 4:00 pm - Pour Out (I led this session)
Day 2:
  • 9:00 - 10:00 am - Devotions and Prayer
  • 10:00 - 12:30 pm - Leadership Lids (identifying personal and ministry lids and how to lift them)
  • 12:30 - 1:30 pm - Lunch
  • 1:30 - 3:30 pm. - Fun Time 
  • 3:30 - 4:00 - Desert & closing discussion

5 Keys to Building Parents' Confidence in Your Children's Ministry

People's confidence in the church has fallen dramatically over the past four decades, hitting an all-time low this year of 42%.  It now ranks fourth behind the military, small business and the police, and just ahead of the medical system.

Why the drop in confidence?  Poor behavior on the part of some religious leaders has caused serious self-inflicted wounds for the church and organized religion -- damaging its image.  At the same time, the nation is becoming less Christian and less religious, and those outside of Christianity naturally view the church with less respect.

In spite of falling levels of confidence, you can build parents' confidence in your ministry.  Here are 5 keys.

Make safety and security a top priority.  Their child's safety is a big deal to parents and rightly so.  They want to know that their children are safe in your care.  A thorough on-boarding process for new volunteers including a background check, a check-in / check-out system,  clear evacuation plan, rules like a minimum of two volunteers in each room and other steps will build parents' confidence in your ministry. 

Here is more critical information about parents' safety expectations at church and how to meet them.

Excellence.  Children's Ministry done with excellence breeds confidence.  Excellence is found in doing the small things well.  It's in the details.  This includes everything from proofreading before printing to keeping your rooms clean to doing events well.

Take this test to see how your Children's Ministry scores in the area of details.

Follow through.  When you make a promise...follow through.  When a parent calls and leaves a message...return the call that day.  Respond to parent emails within 24 hours. 

Communicate.  Effective communication is essential.  Keep parents in the know.  Newsletters, parent Facebook pages, text messages and take home papers are just a few ways you can communicate with parents. 

Here are 7 ways to effectively communicate with parents.

Partnership.  It's not easy being a parent.  There are key times in a parent's life where they come looking for help.  Partner with them during these times and you'll gain their confidence.

You can read more about key times to partner with parents in this post.

Do these 5 things well with consistency and you'll find the compound effect will cause parents' confidence in your Children's Ministry to skyrocket. 

What Are You Placing In Parents' Hands This Easter?

Easter is a great time to place key communication pieces in parents' hands.  Here are some of the pieces we are giving parents who attend Easter services.

Children's Ministry brochure
Special piece for those who only come Christmas & Easter
Lesson Take Home page
Small Group info.
Text and Facebook sign-up
Summer Camp info.
Faith Commitment / Baptism class info. (side 1)
Faith Commitment / Baptism class info. (side 2)
Parent Partnership info.