Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts
Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts

New Book by William Vanderbloemen...Win a Free Copy

Did you know that culture is crucial to building a thriving, effective ministry?

My friend, William Vanderbloemen, has just released a ground-breaking book about culture that is a must read.

William is the founder and CEO of Vanderbloemen Search Group, an executive search firm that helps churches, ministries and faith-based organizations build strong teams through their innovative pastor search and church staffing process.

In Culture Wins, William defines culture as this.
"Culture is about how a team uniquely functions when it’s at its best. It’s about how you function as a team when you’re working well. It’s about knowing the habits, customs, and mannerisms that are common to your team but uncommon to other teams. And ultimately, building an effective culture means knowing, memorializing, and embedding them as cultural values the team is expected to live by."
This book was written not from theory alone, but from proven principles that can help you build a great culture.  The team at Vanderbloemen has won numerous awards for their culture, including being named #1 on Entrepreneur.com’s Top Company Culture list in the Small Company category.

Whether you realize it or not, your ministry has a culture.  This book will help you identify your culture, analyze it and then take it to a revitalized, healthier place.  From hiring key staff to on-boarding volunteers to putting values in place, you'll discover how to create a ministry where people love to work and serve.

You can have a great ministry strategy, but without a great culture, the strategy will fall flat.  You can have talented team members, but without a great culture, they will struggle.  You can have great vision, but without a great culture, the vision will not be realized.

Reading this book has given me a fresh perspective about how much culture matters and the steps it takes to create a great one.  I want to encourage you to dive into it as well.

You can purchase the book at this link.

And William is going to give away a free copy to one of our readers.  You can enter the giveaway by emailing me at dale@buildingchildrensministry.com.  I will randomly pick one person and announce the winner here on this site next Tuesday, April 3rd.

p.s. If you are called to full-time children's ministry and looking for a position or if you're a church searching for children's ministry staff, then Vanderbloemen can help.  

They have a great heart for children's ministry.  I had the privilege of talking with William about "How Children's Ministry is a Growth Engine for the Church" on his podcast.  You can listen to it here.

If Disney Ran Your Children's Ministry - eBook Givewaway


We're giving away a free eBook copy of the new book "If Disney Ran Your Children's Ministry."

This book gives you an inside look at why Disney is so successful at connecting with kids and families and gives you practical ways you can translate it into your children's ministry.

Over 230 pages of insight will show you how to...
  • Cast Vision Like Disney
  • Construct Teams Like Disney
  • Change Like Disney
  • Connect with Families Like Disney
  • Customer Service Like Disney
  • Cool Environments Like Disney
  • Committed to Excellence Like Disney
  • Capture Kids' Attention Like Disney
  • Creativity Like Disney
  • Culture Like Disney
You can enter the giveaway by emailing me at dalehudsoncm2@gmail.com.  We'll announce the winner here on this site, next Wednesday, Oct. 26th.   You can get the book now in hard copy or eBook format at www.kidminmouse.com. 

What Today's Pre-Teens Think Is Cool - The List You Need to See

If you want to connect with and reach pre-teens, it's vital you know their culture.

When you care enough to find out what they like and can talk with them about it knowledgeably, they will open their heart and let you inside.

That's a big reason why we recently started giving our pre-teen volunteers a monthly "what's trending with kids" list that gives them talking points.  You can read more about that here.

Okay...now back to this post.  Recently Business Insider, surveyed a group of 60 students to find out what they thought was "cool."  In other words...what was popular with them.  Here are the findings.

Smartphones - the average kid gets their first smartphone at age 11.  They are spending an average of 6 hours a day on their smartphones.  The iPhone 6 and Galaxy S5 are the most popular phones.

Screens...screens...screens.  Mobile device screens.  TV screens.  Video game screens.  Computer screens.  On average, they spend 11 hours a day in front of screens.

Music.  Students who like music use Spotify as their preferred music streaming service.

Netflix.  Streaming is quickly replacing traditional TV programming.  Here's a chart with more specifics.

Neko Atsume.  You've probably never heard of this Japanese game, but numerous students they talked to were obsessed with it.  The game's name literally translates to "cat collecting," and that's exactly what you do in the game.

Color Switch. A bunch of students also mentioned this game.  In this game, you must follow each color pattern you're shown on each obstacle to progress.

Celebrities.  Some of the more popular names included Taylor Swift, Justin Timberlake, Jimmy Fallon, 5 Seconds of Summer, Kanye West, DJ Khaled, Justin Bieber, Kendall Jenner, Ruby Rose and One Direction.

YouTube Celebrities.  
Brendon Urie, Shawn Mendes, Connor Franta, Troye Sivan, Tyler Oakley, Miranda Sings, Shane Dawson, Logan Paul, Lele Pons, Josh Peck, Jenna Marbles, Manny MUA, Ethan and Grayson Dolan, Alx James, Grace Helbig, Mamrie Hart, Hannah Hart, and Rosanna Pansino.

Today's pre-teens are more aware of current events and pop culture than ever before.  This is because they have so many ways to be connected to the news and other information outlets.

The next time you are talking with pre-teens, bring up some of these things and see if you don't get a "wow...I can't believe you know that" look and an inroad into conversation.  Once that happens, you can make a heart connection that will enable you to influence them spiritually.

Why the Kids in Your Ministry Are Fidgeting

Were the kids in your ministry fidgeting this past weekend?

If they were, it's not because they're irreverent or rebellious.  They were fidgeting because they're wired to move and you weren't giving them enough opportunities to do so.

You can go with kids' natural wiring to help them learn and engage or you can force them to sit still and be quiet.  Force them into a prolonged sedentary state and they'll feel like they're in "time out" and will soon dread coming to church.

Am I saying that kids should never sit and listen quietly?  No.  I believe they should...but in small doses.  If you want kids to experience times of "being still and quiet" before the Lord, then balance it will lots of time for them to "dance" before the Lord.
Honor kids time to move and they will honor the time you ask them to be still and quiet.
Active learning has been proven to be more effective than quiescent learning.  Make sure your programming reflects this.  Here are five expectations we go over with the kids at the beginning of every service.

Talk when it's time to talk.
We give kids lots of opportunities to talk, discuss and interact with each other and their leaders.

Sing when its time to sing. 
We encourage kids to engage during the worship songs.  2 of the songs are upbeat and very active.  1 is a slower, more reflective worship song.

Listen when it's time to listen. 
When someone else is talking up front or in their group, show respect by listening.

Play when it's time to play.
There are lots of interactive learning activities and games.  We encourage kids to get involved.

Have fun.
We encourage a culture of fun.  We want their experience to be engaging, relevant and enjoyable.

Notice the percentages of the expectations listed above.
  • Moving, interacting and talking - 80%
  • Sitting still, being quiet and listening - 20%  
The 80% enables the 20% to be effective.  Take a look at your percentage.  If the kids are fidgeting, it's probably because the sitting still and being quiet percentage is too high.

Turning Like into Share

How do you see kids and families in your church who "like" the ministry begin "sharing" about the ministry with their family, friends, co-workers, schoolmates and teammates?

FIRST - CREATE A SHARE CULTURE.  Cultures don't happen by accident, they are intentionally created.  This can be done by keeping a focus on outreach.  Regularly teach about Jesus' heart to seek and save those who are lost.
Each week, we talk to the kids about inviting their unchurched friends.  We have an empty chair up front that we use as a visual reminder and talking point.
SECOND - PROVIDE SHARE OPPORTUNITIES.  Identify special times that are great invite opportunities.  Easter, Christmas, Fall Festivals and other days and events like this are great opportunities for people to invite others.

This past weekend, we had a special emphasis and encouraged our kids to invite their unchurched friends.  They responded and brought over 100 friends who had never been to our church before. 

THIRD - PROVIDE SHARE TOOLS.  This can be as simple as providing them with invite cards.  We have found if you make these available, kids and families will use them.

This past Easter, we had a lady come to our church for the first time.  When we asked how she heard about the church, she told us she's a crossing guard at a local elementary school.  While waiting to cross, some of our kids had given her an invite card and invited her to come.

FOURTH - BE A SPIRITUAL HOSPITAL.  When the kids and families in your church know it's a place they can bring others to get help, they will bring them.  I'm thinking now of a family who recently came and stepped across the line of faith.  The backstory....the mother found out she has cancer.  One of the parents in our church works with her.  He invited her to come because he knew the lady could find prayer and help if she came.

The church is supposed to be a spiritual hospital where people can find help...not a museum where perfect Christians are on display.  Be a hospital and people will bring their friends who are hurting spiritually.

FIFTH - TELL THE STORIES.  Tell the stories of lives that have been changed because someone shared with them and brought them.  This will inspire others to begin sharing and inviting as well.

In the last 9 months, we've had over 3,400 first-time families sign-in at church.  The vast, vast majority of them came because another family in our church personally shared with them and invited them to come.
Turn the families who "like" your church into families who "share" about your church and you'll see lives changed and exponential growth.

How to Build a Powerful Children's Ministry by Christmas

Summer is winding down and fall is fast approaching.  Do you want to make it your best ministry season ever?  Here's how to build a powerful children's ministry over the next few months.

Powerful - Prayer
There is power in prayer. You see, nothing of eternal significance happens without prayer.  Increase your prayer time individually and corporately and watch God move.

Now this is not always easy to do.  Our first instinct is to plan more...try to work things up in our own strength...copy what's working somewhere else.  But what we need to do first is get on our faces before God and call out to Him for wisdom and a fresh anointing.

God can accomplish more in 1 second than we can accomplish in 3 months of our own strength. 

pOwerful - Outward focus
Over time, if you are not intentional, the focus of the ministry can shift completely inward.  This is when the holy huddle forms.  The needs of those inside the ministry take precedent over the lostness of those outside the ministry.

You can't spell the Gospel without "go."  2/3 of God's name is Go.  Get outside the walls of your church and out into the community.  Love.  Serve.  Invest.  Care.  Share.

What is on the heart of Jesus?  The children and families in your community who don't know Him.  It's why He came...to seek and to save those who are lost.  When you make His mission your primary mission, He will pour His power out on your ministry.

poWerful - Word of God
The word of God is powerful...sharper than a two-edged sword.  The power is not in fun games...not in cool environments...not in flashy videos...not in edgy music.  I am not against those things..I use them...but they cannot be the center of our ministry.

Our ministry must be centered on teaching kids God's Word and our curriculum must be grounded in it.  Kids must walk out the door with the truth of God's Word embedded in their heart or we have failed them.

powErful - Excellence
Depending first and foremost on prayer and the Word of God isn't an excuse to be lackadaisical.  God expects us to give our best.  He tells us that whatever we do should be done with all our might.  Excellence is found in the details.  When you pay fantastic attention to the details, they will add up to powerful results.   

powerRful - Raise up volunteers
A powerful ministry is powered by a dynamic volunteer team.  How many new volunteers do you need to add to take your ministry to the next level?  Set a goal for the next four months and start inviting people.  New volunteers will bring energy and excitement to your ministry.

powerFul - Focus
The more focused your ministry is the more powerful your ministry will be.  You can do a lot of things nominally or do a few things powerfully.  Focus your volunteers.  Focus your time.  Focus your budget.  Focus your vision. 

powerfUl - Understand the culture
You won't reach the kids and families of 2015 with a ministry that is operating like it's still 1985.  Learn today's kids.  Learn how young millennial parents think.

I often use the illustration of a McDonald's kid's meal.  The food has remained pretty much the same over the years...hamburger, fries and drink.  But the box that contains the food is changed to stay relevant to the culture.  If Superman is popular, then the box will reflect that.  If Minions are popular, then the box will reflect that.  Can you imagine if the box today had Captain Kangaroo on it (I just dated myself).  Kids would be saying, "What is that?  I can't relate to that."

Our ministry must be like this.  The food...God's Word...never changes, but the container we place it in must change to speak the language of the current culture.  We must be anchored to the truth but geared for the times.

powerfuL - Leadership
Powerful leadership brings powerful ministry.  A ministry will never rise above it's leadership.  If you want a 7 ministry, then you've got to be a 7 leader.  If you want a 10 ministry, then you've got to be a 10 leader.  What areas of your leadership do you want to improve?  Improve you and you will improve the ministry. 

May we ponder these things.  May we practice these things.  May we put these things into action.  If we will, I believe God will pour out His blessings on our ministries in the next few months.

20 Leadership Lessons I Learned from Dave Anderson

This past week Dave Anderson came and spent a day teaching our staff about leadership.

Dave is the founder and president of LearnToLead, an international leadership training and consulting company.  He is the author of twelve books and has appeared in hundreds of publications including The Wall Street Journal and US News and World Report.  He is a frequent guest on MSNBC's television show "Your Business."

Dave is a committed believer and also invests in church leaders.  He shared so many great leadership lessons.  Here are the top 20 that I came away with.

What got you where you are won't take you where you need to go.  Don't let your role outgrow you.

Do ordinary things extraordinarily well.

Vision is a daily thing.
 
A great dream with the wrong team is a nightmare.

Mediocrity talks about credentials.  Greatness talks about accomplishments.

Don't just hire people you like...there are a lot of likeable losers.

Culture is never done.  It's like a garden.  You have to weed, feed and seed it.

Excuses make you ordinary and average.

Excuses are the perfume that lazy people spray to cover their laziness.

Award stepping up not just showing up.

Mediocrity is a choice.  You won't find it on anyone's birth certificate.

The minute you say you are not complacent...you are.

6 Unteachables:
    1. character
    2. drive
    3. energy
    4. passion
    5. talent
    6. attitude
You attract into your organization what you are, not what you want.

You can do a lot of things mediocre and leave a blur or you can do a few things well and leave a mark.

Culture determines behavior and behavior determines results.

You can help people become more than they are, but you cannot help people become something they are not.

Core values are non-negotiable behaviors that broadcast what you expect from your employees and are unwilling to compromise on.

Core values establish your organizations DNA.  They determine what you stand for and what you're not willing to settle for.

If you want great performance, then you must define it.

Have you best people building stuff instead of fixing stuff.

The Post - Christian Generation...How You Can Reach Them

I recently heard a pastor say, "We do not live in a Christian nation.  We live in a nation that has some Christians in it...but it is not a Christian nation."

Whether you agree with that statement or not, it is evident that we are quickly sliding away from being able to classify ourselves as a "Christian nation."  Yes...it still says "In God We Trust" on our currency, but fewer people seem to actually be trusting in God. 

Consider this...
  • 4% do not believe in God
  • 8% identify as agnostic or atheist
  • 13% disagree that faith is important
  • 18% do not pray
  • 27% have never made a commitment to Jesus
  • 29% disagree that the Bible is accurate
  • 32% have not donated money to a church
  • 33% have not attended a church
  • 41% agree that Jesus committed sins
  • 47% do not feel a responsibility to share their faith
  • 57% have not read the Bible
  • 79% have not volunteered at church
  • 81% have not attended "Sunday School"
  • 81% have not attended a small group
  • 89% have not participated in a house church
The startling realization is that each generation is becoming more post-Christian.  The Mosaics (ages 18-28) are 48% post-Christian compared to the Busters (ages 29-47) who are at 40%.  If this pattern continues, the generation of kids we are trying to reach will be even more post-Christian.

Don't let these stats depress you.  God is still at work...in an amazing way.  Some of the greatest churches in the history of our nation are being built right now and they are doing it by reaching post-Christians.

Here's what it takes...

Authenticity
Unbelievers want to see Christians that are genuine.  Not perfect...but with a sincere faith that translates into every area of their lives.  Nothing validates a person's faith more than living it out every day.

Attractiveness
No one wants to give their lives to misery.  When believers look like they were baptized in pickle juice, who would want to be a Christ-follower?  We must let the joy of the Lord rule our hearts so people can see it in our faces and be attracted to it.

Anointing
The Holy Spirit is the one who convicts of sin and draws people to the Father.  As we spend time with God, His anointing falls upon our lives and empowers us to reach people.  Take a look at some of the churches that are effectively reaching people and you will see that it's not because of their talent or cool music or hip pastors...it's because of the anointing of God resting upon their ministry.  Above  all else, beg...beg...beg...beg...beg...beg for God to anoint your ministry.

Acceptance
Are you willing to accept people where they are?  Can alcoholics, adulterers, people living together, homosexuals, drug addicts, agnostics, prostitutes, thieves, etc. come and feel loved and welcome?  Will you give them time and space to belong before they believe?  Notice I didn't say "approve" but "accept."  There is a difference.

Acquainting
In past generations, the public in general had some knowledge of the Bible.  But as we move farther and farther away from Christianity as a nation, you will find that people have little to no knowledge of God's Word.  You will have to start at square one, teaching them who God is and how He sent His Son, Jesus, to redeem us.

As the culture around us gets darker with each passing generation, the brighter the light of the Gospel can shine.  The Gospel is what changes lives.  It is the hope for the world!  Our greatest opportunities to share the Gospel and reach people area ahead.

The Post-Christian Generation...yes...you can reach them.  The Gospel still works if we will acquaint people with it.

The Gospel Truth About Children's Ministry (Review & Book Giveaway)

The Gospel Truth About Children's Ministry is a brand new, groundbreaking book from our friends at Awana.

They talked with more than 1,000 decision makers in children’s ministry around the U.S. about the joys and challenges of reaching kids for Christ in a rapidly changing culture.  This compelling book covers 10 of the most important research findings.

As a student of the culture and the most crucial aspects of Children's Ministry, this book opened my eyes to some new realizations and really got me thinking about these and other questions.
  • What are the keys to seeing kids become lifelong disciples? 
  • How do we engage parents more effectively?
  • How do we meet digital natives where they are?
  • What key elements make a curriculum effective?  What should we be looking for in a curriculum?
If you're tired of reading empty stats that take you nowhere...then this book is for you.  It takes you below the surface and reveals the "why's" beneath the stats. 

You can order the book at this link.  But don't just order one copy.  Order a copy for everyone on your staff / key volunteer team.  Read it together and dive into the questions each chapter will generate.  As you grapple with these questions and work through the solutions, your ministry will be changed.

I am also giving away 2 copies of the book to our readers.  You can enter the drawing by emailing me at dalehudsoncm2@gmail.com.  I will announce the winner right here next Monday, June 29th.

5 Keys to Keeping Young Families Connected to Your Church

The Millennials, born between 1981 and 1997, are the next generation of parents.

As they have children, many of them will walk into the doors of our churches looking for spiritual guidance for themselves and their children.

The big question...how can you keep them connected?

Recent research by Barna says Millennials are looking for 5 key things.  Focus on these and you'll see them connecting to your church.

1. RELATIONSHIPS
Millennials are twice as likely to stay at a church if they have a close personal relationship with someone in the church.  When they do not develop relationships in the church, they drop out.  Studies show 7 out of 10 Millennials who drop out of church did not have a close friendship.

If you want to keep young families connected to your church, be intentional about providing ways for them to get relationally connected with others. 

 2. TEACH CULTURAL DISCERNMENT
Pop culture is a driving force for Millennials.  Bringing their faith in Jesus to problems they encounter in the culture is a powerful motivator for these young parents.

Millennials want their faith to move beyond just Sunday worship.  Studies show that Millennials who stay connected to church have been taught how to effectively navigate the culture.  This does not mean inundating them with overprotective impulses that are driven by fear of the culture.  That approach will turn them off.  Instead, we must help them engage the culture from a Christian perspective.   

3. REVERSE MENTORING
Millennials want to make a difference...now.  From their perspective, institutional church life is too hierarchical.  They are not interested in "earning" their way to the top so much as they want to put their gifts and skills to work now.

Reverse mentoring means giving these young parents opportunities to lead and serve, instead of asking them to "wait" their turn.  An example is in the area of technology, where they can teach older generations.

When Millennials are given opportunities to serve, they are twice as likely to stay connected to church.   

4. VOCATIONAL DISCIPLESHIP
A fourth way churches can deepen their connection with young families is to teach them a theology of vocation or calling.  When Millennials view their gifts and passions as part of God's calling, they are three times more likely to stay connected.

This means helping them see how the Bible applies to their field or career interests.  Many churches only dive into this with young adults who show interest in traditional church-based ministry and in doing so miss the majority of Millennials.  Vocational discipleship is connecting Millennials to the history of Christianity through the unique work God has called them to.

5. CONNECTION WITH JESUS
Millennials who remain active in church are much more likely to say Jesus speaks to them personally in a way that is real and relevant.  They find a sense of authority in the Bible and in their experience with God.

A key is helping Millennials see that their connection with Jesus must be wholly integrated into all areas of their life and not compartmentalized.

Here's some questions to discuss with your team...
How are we helping young families build relationships with each other?  What are some ways we can improve in this area?

Do we teach young families to engage the culture or to hide from the culture?  What are some steps we can take to help them be better equipped to engage the culture?

Are we giving young parents the opportunity to lead and serve?  What are some ways we can do this more effectively? 

Are we helping young parents see their vocation as their ministry?  Are we equipping them to make a  difference for Christ with their job? 

Are young parents encountering God's presence in a real and personal way in our services?  Are we  giving them the tools they need to connect with God during the week? 

16 Secret Rules Disney Employees Follow

When it comes to customer service, Disney sets the standard.  There is much we can learn from them in this area.

Keep in mind that new families usually decide if they're going to return to your church based on how you treat them on their first visit.  So it's critical to get this area right.

Giving families a great first experience doesn't happen by accident.  It's the result of great training and intentionality.

There are 16 key rules that Disney employees are taught as part of their training process.  Many of these can also be used to train children's ministry volunteers and help create a experience for families at your church.

#1 - Cast members.  All Disney employees are called a Cast Member.  This goes for all Disney employees from the ride operators to the janitors.

Children's Ministry takeaway -  What you call your team members matters.  Pick a name that conveys a sense of ownership and family.

#2 - Never say "I don't know."  Cast members can't say "I don't know," no matter what the question is.  Instead, they have to pick up the phone and call an operator to get the answer.

Children's Ministry takeaway - We've all had it happen.  We've asked a question at a place of business or a church and been told, "I don't know."  Just left hanging.  Feeling like you're not important enough for the person to muster enough effort to find out.

Train your volunteers to never say, "I don't know."  Instead, train them to say, "That's a great question...let me find out for you."  Then train them to do whatever it takes to find out the answer.  A great starting point is to make sure your volunteers have the information they need to answer questions.  Equip them with a list of activities, events, classes, etc that are going on.  Also make a list of FAQ's that new families might ask and equip your volunteers with the answers.

#3 - Beards can not be shaped and mustache can not extend over their lips or further than the corner of their mouth. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - This one doesn't totally translate into children's ministry, but is a good reminder that a professional appearance is important.

#4 - Hair code.  Disney cast members can not shave their eyebrows.  Hair must be neatly brushed.  Men's hair can not extend over the ears or hang over a shirt collar.  Beads are not allowed in the hair, however braids are acceptable but must be neat.

Children's Ministry takeaway - Another good reminder that a professional appearance is important.

#5 - Autographs.  Disney cast members go through signature training, if they are going to become one of the characters.  For each character, they have to follow very specific guidelines when writing signatures because they all need to be consistent regardless of who might be playing that character that day.

Children's Ministry takeaway -  Excellence is found in the details.  Another is the importance of consistency in values, procedures and culture.

#6 - Character Height - You can only be a certain height to play a character at Disney.  For example, to be a princess, you can only be between 5'4" and 5'8". 

Children's Ministry takeaway - It's important to put volunteers in the right role.  More on how to do this in this post.

#7 - Finger nails - Did you notice that Disney cast members don't usually have nail polish on?  If they have any at all, the polish needs to be a neutral color and no one in food or beverage is allowed to have any at all.  Furthermore, women's finger nails can only be a 1/4 inch past the finger and all males can not be past their finger tips.

Children's Ministry takeaway - Another good reminder that a professional appearance is important.

#8 - Body art - Disney cast members can not have any visible tattoos, tongue piercings or ear gauges. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - Another good reminder that a professional appearance is important.

#9 - Glasses - Those that need to wear glasses cannot wear glasses that have any type of branding (logos, etc) on them.  Also, the colors and frames must be conservative in nature.

Children's Ministry takeaway - Another good reminder that a professional appearance is important.

#10 - Cleaning - Every cast member is responsible for keeping the park clean.  If a cast member spots a piece of trash, they must pick it up and dispose of it.

Children's Ministry takeaway - Cleanliness is vital in Children's Ministry and is everyone's job.  A messy and cluttered environment is a turn-off for families.

#11 - How you clean - When a cast member spots a piece of trash, they must not bend over.  That is simply not proper.  You will see them instead pick it up in a scoop like manner. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - It's not just what you do, but how you do it, that creates a culture of excellence.

#12 - No finger pointing allowed - If you ever ask a cast member for directions, he will not point with one finger.  This is viewed as offensive in some cultures.  Instead, he will use his entire hand or use at least 2 fingers to point.

Children's Ministry takeaway - While it is recommended to always walk a family to a location, in a situation where volunteers need to point someone in the right direction, teach them to point with at least 2 fingers.

#13 - Social media guidelines - Cast Members are not allowed at any time to talk about what they do at Disney on social media platforms. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - It's important that volunteers agree to not post anything questionable or offensive on social media.  Kids and parents are on social media and we must maintain a good testimony online.  Here's more about social media guidelines for volunteers in children's ministry.

#14 - First name only - Walt Disney always liked to be called by his first name "Walt," so this is why you only see cast member's first name on their name tag.  Friends and family operate on a first name basis. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - Create a family atmosphere.  Team spirit must trump titles.

#15 - Code words - There are plenty of code words that cast members use through out the park to cover up the real meaning of what is happening.  One in particular is rather telling.  When a guest throws up, you might hear the code word "Protein Spill" or as of late it has been called "Code V."

Children's Ministry takeaway - Create code words for incidents such as a child missing, accident, lock down, etc.  This will help alleviate panic if you need to communicate about an incident where people can hear.  Know ahead of time what you will do in an emergency situation. 

#16 - Cast Members must always stay in character no matter what.  Don't expect a Disney character to know anything outside of the Disney Universe.  So don't ask Tinkerbell what she thinks about Superman.  She will have no idea what you are talking about. 

Children's Ministry takeaway - Another example of commitment to the details that creates a culture of excellence.

Why the Best KidMin Leaders are Followers

We tend to catoregize people as either a leader or a follower.

But I want to challenge that premise.  I believe you can be a follower without being a leader, but you can't be a leader without being a follower. 

Great leaders are also great followers.  They are willing to take direction, listen to criticism and ask for help.

They have people wiser and more experienced that they go to for advice.  They have people their same age and experience level that they are sharpened by.  They have younger people that help them stay in touch with the culture and current trends.

The first step to being a great leader is being a great follower.  The first step to remaining a great leader is to remain a great follower. 

When I was in middle school, I wanted to improve as a basketball player.  I made the decision to spend my extra basketball time playing with high school players.  They were better than me, stronger than me, taller than me and faster than me.  I definitely wasn't the leader.  But I knew if I was going to improve as a leader on my team, I needed to spend time following.  Following them made me a better leader on the court.

Take a look at who's in your life.  Who you are following is just as important as who you are leading.

Do Kids Look at Your Children's Ministry Like This?

Recently a group of kids had a VCR placed in front of them and were asked what it was.  A few of the kids knew, but for the most part, they were bewildered.  For kids who are growing up with streaming content, a VCR and VHS tape is something from the dark ages.

You see...content is content.  But the method that is used to deliver the content must change to stay in sync with technology, trends and times.  It makes no sense to use VCR's anymore...especially when you're delivering content to a streaming generation.

In many cases, churches and children's ministries are fading.  Why?  Is it because of their content?  No.  It's because the methods they are using to deliver the content are outdated.  Kids and families from a streaming generation are walking in the door and looking with bewilderment at VCR ministry.

Want to know if you're a VCR ministry in a streaming world?  Here's a few ways to tell.
  • Is your music style from a time when VCR's were popular?
  • Are your programs as complicated as programming a VCR or simple as pushing a button on an iPad?
  • Are your lessons geared to meet the needs of the VCR generation or the streaming generation?
  • Do you know more about the culture of VCR kids than you do of streaming kids?
Bottom line:  Our content never changes.  But the methods we use to deliver the content must change to stay relevant to the culture in which we are ministering.  Ministries that hang onto VCR methods will have a hard time being effective in a streaming world.

10 Reasons Why Your Lessons Are Boring Kids to Death

Ever heard a kid say your lesson was boring?  If so, it was probably due to one or more of these reasons.  

A lecture-based teaching style.  I remember sitting in a "Sunday School" class as a kid.  We had two teachers.  They took turns teaching the lesson.  When one was teaching, the other one would fall asleep.  As kids, we had too much energy to fall asleep.  Instead, we were forced to sit there for an hour and endure what seemed like an eternity of torture.  I'm not blaming the teachers.  I am thankful for their hearts to minister to us.  They simply didn't know that lecturing is not the best way to teach kids.  In this article, I share a more effective way to teach kids. 

Making them sit still.  When we tell kids to "sit still and be quiet" we are really saying "sit still and be bored to death."  Kids were made to move.  In fact, the more kids move...the more they learn.  If you want to engage kids with your lesson, use participatory, hands-on, active learning.  In this article, you can read more about how to get kids moving.

Not honoring their attention span.  Kids have an attention span of 1 minute for every year of their age - maxing out at 5 minutes.  When you violate this, they will get bored.  If you want to keep their attention, reset their internal clock every five minutes by switching to another activity, song, game, object lesson, etc. 

Not using visual communication.  This generation hears with their eyes.  Words will bore them.  Words accompanied by images will engage them.

Only using one learning style.  When you limit your lesson to just one or two learning styles, the kids who learn differently will get bored.  Be intentional about using all the learning styles when you are teaching and you'll engage all the kids.

Not letting them talk.  "Sssssshhhhhh" kids and they will get bored.  And if all the talking is being done up front...you will lose them.  Give them opportunities to discuss deeper learning questions.  Read this article for the latest findings regarding this.

Putting them in space designed for adults.  Stick them in a room with beige walls and brown metal folding chairs and it will contribute to boredom.  Can you engage kids even if the room is not kid-friendly?  Yes, but you'll have to work harder to compensate for the dull environment.  Kids are drawn to bright, fun colors.  Kid-friendly environments do make a difference.  Ever seen a kid bored at Disney World?

Not knowing their culture.  Ever tried to talk with someone who doesn't speak your language?  Hard to connect, isn't it?  If you're talking cassettes to digital download kids, you'll lose them.  In a recent training, I shared about how to connect with today's kids.  You can read it here. 

Talking down to them.  Baby talk leads to boredom.  When you're in a room with kids of multiple ages, always talk to the oldest kid in the room.  Cool rolls down hill.

Not telling stories.  A story is the greatest boredom buster of all times.  Want to see kids lock their attention on what your saying?  Tell a story.  Great story tellers are great teachers.  Jesus, the greatest teacher of all times, used stories as one of His primary means of capturing people's attention.

The floor is yours.  What are some other reasons kids get bored during a lesson?  What do you do to keep kids engaged when you're teaching?  Share with us in the comment section below. 

3 Simple Words That Will Spark Creativity in Your Children's Ministry

The language you use helps shape the culture of your ministry.

Jim Wiltens, who teaches a program for gifted and talented children in Northern California schools, emphasizes the power of positive language.  You will never hear him say, “I can’t.”

He uses more constructive words like “I could if I…” He even promises to pay his students $100 if they ever catch him saying, “I can’t.”

When Cathie Black took over as president of Hearst Magazines, she noticed that negative speech patterns had cre­ated an environment hostile to new ideas.  So Black told her team that every time they said things like, “We’ve tried that already” or “That will never work,” she would fine them $10.

After enforcing her rule just a few times, Black effectively wiped those expressions from the office vocabulary.  The result?  New creativity and growth.

Three of the best words you can say when faced with a challenge are “How might we…?”  

The “how” suggests that improvement is always possible. The only question remain­ing is how we will do it.

The word “might” suggest a breakthrough is possible.

And the “we” establishes team own­ership of the challenge, making it clear that it will be a group effort.

Fine tuning the words you use can help diminish negativity and spark creativity.

The Simple Secret to Creating Ministry Ideas That Kids Love

In 1984, two cartoonists wanted to create an idea that kids would love.  They sat down and made a list of what kids were into.  After creating an extensive list, they narrowed it down to the top three.

1. Ninjas
2. Turtles
3. Mutants

They combined these three into one idea that started a craze that has generated billions of dollars....Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.  31 years later, kids are still enjoying it.  In fact, a new movie is in the works and is scheduled to be released in December 2013.

Here's the simplistic beauty of what they did.  They made a short list of things kids love and combined it to create an off-the-hook idea that kids gravitate toward.

You can take their simple secret and apply it to your ministry.

1. Create a list of hot items for kids.
  • Go to a toy store and ask them what is hot.
  • Google "Most popular toys" or "Current Kid Culture."
  • Ask kids what they are into.
2. Narrow it down to the top three.

3. Adapt one or more to...
  • Use as an object lesson
  • Create a lesson series theme
  • Brand a big event
  • Use in a game
  • Have a contest
  • Create a skit
  • Produce a video
  • There are so many possibilities
Anytime you can connect with kids using their current culture, you will be effective.  Try this simple secret...it works.

5 Questions Guest Families Are Asking Themselves When They Walk In Your Church Doors

New families are asking themselves these questions when they walk in your church doors for the first time.  Answer them correctly and there's a great chance they will return.

Some of the questions will be answered verbally.  Other questions will be answered non-verbally through actions, attitude, demeanor, and carefully thought out preparation.   
Question #1 - WHERE DO I GO?
Remember what it's like to walk into a new place?  You don't know where to go, where to drop off your kids, where to find a restroom, etc.

Preparation:  
  • Have clearly marked guest parking...and make it the best parking on the lot.  Have parking lot attendants guide guests into this area.  You can do this by having an entrance sign that says "Guests, turn on your hazard lights for reserved parking."  
  • Have clearly marked outside signage.
  • Have greeters at each door.
  • Have hosts that help them get checked in and personally walk them to the right areas.
Question #2 - WILL THEY BE FRIENDLY?  
It's also easy to forget what it's like to walk into a new place and not know anyone.  Guests can walk in, see everyone talking in groups, and feel very intimated and out-of-place. 

Preparation: 
  • Have the right people greeting.  Make sure your greeters have a great personality, love people, and have the ability to make new people feel comfortable.
  • Make sure the friendliness factor is part of your church's DNA.  The friendliness factor must go way beyond the front door.  It should extend through their whole experience. 
  • Have a time of welcome and greeting at the beginning of the service.  Do not have guests stand or point them out.  They are feeling awkward enough already.  Simply have people near them greet them and welcome them.
  • Show genuine interest in them.  Move beyond the "welcome" and take time to talk with guests.  Engage them in conversation and find out about their family.  Have the attitude "there you are" instead of " here I am."
  • Have a guest reception after the service and invite guests to come meet the Pastor, have refreshments, etc.
  • Be just as friendly when are leaving as when they were coming in.  Have greeters at the doors thanking people for coming as they leave.  The smiling face they see when they are leaving will be what they remember the most.
Question #3 - WILL MY KIDS LIKE IT?  
This is one of the biggest questions you have to answer for families.  It's one of the main reasons people will choose a church.  Mark it down...if the kids aren't happy...mom and dad won't be happy.

Preparation:
  • Make Children's Ministry a top priority at your church.  This includes space, budget, volunteers, scheduling, resources, and staffing.
  • Make church fun for kids.  Fun simply means engaging...age appropriate...and relevant.  Listen and you will hear guest parent's ask their children, "Did you have fun today?"  Work hard to make sure their answer is a resounding "yes."
Question #4 - WILL MY KIDS BE SAFE?
With the volatile culture in which we live, parents will be wondering if their children will be safe in your care.

Preparation:
  • Have clear safety and security procedures in place...and follow them.  This includes background checks on all volunteers, no volunteers alone with a child, pick-up tags, etc.
  • When parents check in, share with them the basic safety and security measures you have in place to keep their child safe.
  • Provide parents with a pager when they drop off their child.  Assure them you will page them if their child needs them.
Question #5 - WILL THERE BE ANYONE I CAN RELATE TO?
They are wondering if there will be anyone they can connect with?  Anyone in the same season of life?  Anyone who will understand them?  Anyone who will accept them where they are?  

Preparation:
  • Have people from all generations as greeters.  If a young couple walks in and only sees senior citizens greeting, they are going to get the impression that the church is not for people their age...and visa versa.
  • Your congregation should reflect the social economic and ethnic diversity of your community.  Someone from any nationality should feel at home.  A millionaire and a hundredaire should feel equally valued and loved.
  • Create a "hospital" culture instead of a "museum" culture.  Message that people don't have to "have their act completely together" to be a part of the church.  Allow people to "belong" before they "believe" and start "behaving."
What other questions do you think new families are asking themselves as they are walking in your church doors?  How can you prepare to answer those questions ahead of time?  Share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Posted by Dale Hudson